to be scared of people analyzing everything

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I didn't know how easily people get offended until i joned mn!

Now i'm scared of saying 'oh what a beautiful baby', or buying a present for a child as everything seems 'inapropriate' present on mn, or inviting people for a 'bring a dish party', or cooking for playdates.

Do others feel the same?

not at all

if MN is making you scared of life then don't use it

people are not afraid of posting comments on here that they wouldnt post in RL
and often get carried away in their opinions. imo

No, I don't feel like that.

Thats the thing susansocks Makes me wonder what people in RL think but dont verbalize it

I'm not scared of life ssd

If anything I think being on MN has given me more courage in my convictions.
I care less what people think of things and am less afraid to give my opinions as another thing it's taught me is that my opinion is as valid as the next persons whether anybody agrees with me or not.

I have always been someone who cared deeply what other people thought of me, my opinion, my gift, my home etc.
MN has taught me that as long as I am happy and confident in what I do, what other people think matters not a jot.

Wow, that sounded like a load of schmaltzy, self help bollocks.
Ha! I don't care

i t hink often people are just posting/analysing for the SAKE of it.

YANBU, I would not say that MN scares me but things I hear in RL from pweople about other opeople, I often dread to think what they might say about me when I am not arround. But then I try not to think to much about it and go for the head in the sand "sureoy they could not have a bad word to say about me!"

Ignorance is bliss.

I make sure to never say a bad word about anyone and this way maybe it ups my chances to have nothing bad told about me.

And don't you all dare judging my typos and decide it's because I have no education at all even if it is true!

Why do care about a) what a bunch of strangers on the internet think and b) what your friends are thinking if they can't say it to your face?

MN made me realise how daft some mothers are about their kids

how do they think the human race has survived all this time withouth P&C spaces, controlled crying (whatever that is) and guidelines from a million different organisations, all giving different advice

I am positively restrained on MN compared to real life, where I analyse absolutely everything!

Bonsoir, If I had to think of one poster on MN that analyses everything it would be you! You must be very scary in real life

I used to think people were scrutinising every non organic grape I fed my child, and every t-shirt not bought from an ethical company, not to mention the jars of baby food I used when we went away for the weekend.

Now I realise that other people have some really odd ideas, so I care a lot less about offending them with my inappropriate birthday present. Hopefully I won't end up like my mother though, saying things like "oh doesn't he have a big head" and giving a flowery soap dish as a gift to a 30 year old bloke.

My mother was just the same, Lynette!! Coming back to your original point, I think a lot of the comments on parenthood are down to insecurity in oursleves as parents, causing us to over-analyze actions. We are also part of a nanny state now and used to hearing and listening to advice given as part of some other agenda ( quite often the state's). We have lost confidence and snubbed the (perfectly sound) advice which would have been passed down the generations in past times and constantly look elsewhere for it. We find it in a plethora of literature guaranteed to undermine our trust in our own common sense. We then become gripped by a collective paranoia, leading to agonies over organic grapes, playdates, dirt and so forth. Sorry to be over-analytical.

Incidentally, I wouldn't dream of spouting such garbage in RL!!