Should I put up screening without asking?

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I have a little girl (5Yrs) and she has been playing in the garden as weather has been nice. Next door has a 4 year old dd and although she is sweet, she bosses my daughter around terribly in the garden and strops if my dd won't pass her toys over the fence or help her climb over into my garden , or if she has a new toy she gets very angry at my dd. These are rented properties and have just mesh fencing.

Today, next door little girl is being her normal bossy self but goes inside after my daughter starts to ignore her shouting and demanding. Then she comes out after a few minutes and says 'my daddy says you have got big ears'. My husband overheard him talking to his daughter and thought that is what he said too! So...obviously my daughter was a bit surprised and sad but we fobbed her off with it being a 'joke'

Now I have had problems with next door, he is very abusive and I recently helped his wife get to a refuge. She has since moved back in but obviously he is none to fond. Am I being unreasonable to put up that willow fencing/ screening stuff without asking? I do not wish to confront him because of the history and we cannot be certain he said it.....though I am pretty sure as it sounds like the things he says to his wife all the time. He behaves like a spoilt child.

He's sounds like a twat, YANBU, I would put up the fencing and have as little to do with them as possible

YOU can put up whatever you like your side of the fence.

I intend to griphook!! But with the least confrontation as possible...
So Fabby - am I allowed to put up 6ft willowy stuff on my side? It is not council property...if that makes a difference to rules.

YANBU

I'm sure it'd be just fine to put up light willow/bamboo screening. It's not a permanent structure.

get a 6ft fence up, pronto!

6 foot 6 actually

You're allowed fences/walls/other boundary treatments between properties at back that are up to 2m (6 ft 6) high. At the front i.e. next to pavement, only 1m.

hmm - thanks everyone! Have been googling - cheapest place is Wilkinsons, so far for bamboo screening. All a bit pricey but will break out the credit card if I have to as am not able to have any peace in my garden at the moment and tomorrow I need to do the gardening and pots up etc. Then I shall await the knock on the front door from the neighbours..

If your landlord doesn't mind I would put the screening up asap. YANBU (my first YANBU! )

Could just doing it make matters worse between you?

Is he likely to get stroppy about it?

You don't have to ask him, but normally you'd mention to a neighbour if you're doing something like this.

I know he's a twat, but you're still going to have to live next door to him.

I feel sorry for his girl (and yours) it'd be nice to live next door to a friend the same age.

You should get permission from the landlord before putting the willow up, if they say yes then install away.

I would put it up either side of the garden if you can afford it - it will come across as less pointed

YANBU - put it up - your poor DD - WTF is an adult making comments like that for - TWUNT!

I'd check with my landlord before doing something like that. But she has never objected to me doing anything as long as it's me footing the bill , so ask as a courtesy.

I hope that the fence is good and sturdy when you put it up, would be awful if it fell on the man next door

Thanks everyone - landlord won't mind at all as long as everything returned to original state on leaving. Having a look today and when I see the lady at toddler group this week I shall mention that I am doing it for next weekend.

Yes I'd just go ahead. I feel for your poor DD.

Absolutely, do it.

would your dd mind?

YANBU.

Hi susansocks- i do not think that she will mind at all. She will ask why and I have lots of good reasons for her (enclose the garden, privacy, stop rabbit escaping etc).