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AIBU?

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Original poster

DH wanted to throw a sickie, I was no help.

30 replies

flamingflamingo · 09/04/2011 15:28

Ok DH has had a hard week I understand this. He has given up smoking and I am very supportive of this.

Today he didnt want to go into work (he works P/T in a shop) I have phoned before and given excuses to work for him and I HATE doing it! Just hate lying.

All morning he moped about thinking of stupid excuses. He said he was too stressed to ring in himself. I told him that he was a GROWN man and I didnt want to ring in again with a silly excuse. As far as I was aware you have to ring your manager yourself anyway if you are not going to be in.

Our DS who is 3 kept asking if he was going to work and my DH kept saying "Yes because Mummy thinks all the excuses I have are stupid and she wont ring in for me" Angry

He then got dressed for work and moped about some more. I told him it was silly for me to ring in and say his excuse which was he had been up all night with sick bug and was currently in bed exhausted.

He left without kissing me as usual and stood at the door shouting "last chance" before slamming it and leaving.

I am not being unreasonable am I? I know he is having a tough week but FGS!!!

OP posts:
ilovesooty · 09/04/2011 15:29

YANBU. He's a whining, dishonest, childish, lying tosser.

LCarbury · 09/04/2011 15:30

I'm surprised his employer will take your word for it anyway, most employers want the actual sick person to call in personally.

ENormaSnob · 09/04/2011 15:31

He needs to grow up.

Nevin · 09/04/2011 15:31

Tell him to cop the fuck on. Seriously?......A GROWN MAN!

Mrsfluff · 09/04/2011 15:31

Y are soooo nbu and his childish behaviour most definitely was vvu! His work must be suspicious when you ring in anyway??

FAB5 · 09/04/2011 15:31

Last chance? What to have him under your feet and moaning all day?!?

nbee84 · 09/04/2011 15:32

Are you married to a 12 year old?????

TheVisitor · 09/04/2011 15:32

Ask him if he's 3 years old.

Original poster
flamingflamingo · 09/04/2011 15:33

Oh thank goodness some sensible people. If he is in a mood when he gets in I am going to just dieeeeeeee I am so fed up.

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Nevin · 09/04/2011 15:34

Show him this thread! Might shut him up...

SilverScarf · 09/04/2011 15:34

He does sound extremely childish, I think you did the right thing.

thisisyesterday · 09/04/2011 15:35

no yanbu! he's acting like a little child

Niecie · 09/04/2011 15:36

Yanbu

How pathetic. Not only does he not want to go to work because he has had a hard week (Really? Giving up smoking isn't easy but hardly constitutes an illness of any kind) but he wants to hide behind your skirts so you will do it for him.

If he wants to lie he should be doing his own lying not asking somebody else. I agree the boss will want to hear from him.

My mother alway says that if you pretend to be ill to get out of work (or school) then you end up being ill on your own time instead. She has always been proved right on this one too.

zikes · 09/04/2011 15:36

YANBU. He should ring in if he's ill, and if he's not ill he should go to bloody work.

52Girls · 09/04/2011 15:38

How the Hell do you put up with him.

Tell him to grow up and get a work ethic before your child grows up.

HappyMummyOfOne · 09/04/2011 15:41

Agree with the others, he needs to grow up and start behaving like an adult. Part time shop work is not exactly the hardest of jobs, he's lucky he only has to do part time - most adults have to work full time to support themselves and family.

As for pulling sick days whenever he feels like, his boss will have the pick of replacements when they get sick of him.

Original poster
flamingflamingo · 09/04/2011 15:42

He is often a PITA. I dont get out much so very often am left feeling IABU, but I am probably not really.

Dreading him coming in and being a knob tbh.

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purepurple · 09/04/2011 15:45

YANBU
If he wanted to pull a sickie then he should do the phoning in. In most jobs, it's in the contarct that you have to phone in yourself. I know it is in my job.
I would love to throw a sickie and not go to work. I don't because I am a grown-up.

diddl · 09/04/2011 15:47

I ring for my husband if he´s ill-wouldn´t lie, though.

DontGoCurly · 09/04/2011 15:48

It would sound really bad if you rang for him. Very unprofessional. The bosses would be making a mental note that he is unreliable and wouldn't look favourably on it.

He is a grown man. YADNBU.

Original poster
flamingflamingo · 09/04/2011 15:49

If he was actually ill I wouldnt mind so much. I just hate lying. Oh and being emotionally blackmailed Angry

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ilovesooty · 09/04/2011 16:06

Dreading him coming home and being a nob? He's the one who owes you an apology.

(I hope he's coming home and being told to make his own tea, for a start off.)

Original poster
flamingflamingo · 09/04/2011 16:08

aw thanks ilovesooty he will have to do his own tea cause he wont be back till 6 and we are having ours at 5 :)

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Groovee · 09/04/2011 18:14

my friend's dh does exactly the same expecting her to phone in sick for him. Dh has phoned in sick for me before but I was in hospital and my mobile wouldn't work.

LiegeAndLief · 09/04/2011 18:36

The only time I have ever rung in for dh was when his dad died and he couldn't talk about it without crying. He rang in for me when I was admitted to hospital. Otherwise, quite apart from the sicky issue, surely if you are ill and an adult you ring in yourself?!

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