to beat DS at monopoly?

[MardyBra]

DS (8) is very competitive and hates to lose. When we play monopoly he often wins as he's very good at it and I usually buy too many properties and end up with cashflow problems.

I recently thrashed him though and he was most upset (I quite enjoyed winning though I did feel a bit sorry for him ).

AIBU to think kids need to lose occasionally?

We have NEVER let DS1 win at any games like that.

Now he sometimes beats us, fair and square and his victory is all the sweeter.

If he is old enough to play then he is old enough to lose.

Kids definitely need to lose sometimes.
Losing with good grace is the next step in this house

Maybe I need to polish up my strategy a bit and beat him more often.

His big sister is a bit soft on him and lets him win at stuff. Also she never buys ENOUGH property/houses and doesn't get a decent income stream.

munstermum - the good grace is the tricky bit for him. We're working on it.

I find the good grace varies according to how he loses.

In a game like Settlers of Catan where the game itself seems to take stuff away and cause the win or lose he is fine about it. But with something like Monopoly he will have a fit because it is a person who is taking his cash.

Also in something like Settlers, you have a winner before anyone else actually has to lose, but with Monopoly you can lose and others still keep playing.

Winning with good grace is harder for DS, he is a smug little git sometimes!

In games like Uno, if he's not the outright winner we have to play on to find out who is "second winner".

I wonder who he inherited his mardy tendencies from?

YANBU I think it's really important to be honest with this sort of thing. My one exception is the obvious slow-motion parents do when little children are racing them :o

If I'm playing a game with my 3yo and I win, I say "yaaaay mummy won, high five" just like we would if she won.

I really don't like bad losers, but actually I find bad winners a lot worse.

I beat EVERYONE at Monopoly - always have. Brings out the bitch in me :)
Wish I was as good with money/investments etc in the real world.

YANBU - though I will probably let DD win sometimes when we start to play (few years off though). Or perhaps she will inherit my Monopoly genius and topple me from my pedestal?

Freudian, I would respectfully suggest that YABU with all that Yay malarky
OP, DD is an only child and not used to having any competition, the first time she lost a game was hysterical. She just wasn't used to is and nearly combusted with rage. It was only snakes and ladders.
She is much better now and can lose at monopoly without too much trouble.
Freudian, that slow motion running is dangerous. I lost the skin on both knees by trying to run slowly but not look as if I was.

let someone else win? on purpose? are you mad?

I do wonder what makes people more upset by losing. Dh has non identical twin girls, one has never been remotely competitive, the other will sulk if she loses or can't do something.

And how on earth did you take the skin off your knees Kreecher?! (Freudian here, Easter namechange...)

no, don't let someone win.

they will never learn the art of competition if they are allowed to win.

They will also never learn fairness.

Which means you'll set them up for failure in life, because they'll feel like it's their right to win.

(a very important lesson I learned from my grandad when I was 7 and he used to beat me at chess. He rightly said said that i'd never learn to play strategically and properly if I always won when I hadn't earned it)

Hollow victory.
Nowhere near as wonderful as beating someone who you know is better than you, and when you know you won fairly and squarely.

I fell over while trying not to look as if I wasn't trying too hard.
At school.
in front of parents.

i bet you fell slow-motion, too, didn't you!

don't forget, we have better balance going fast than going slow doing the same motion iyswim.

Here

OOops. Wrong thread!

i don't think that would help DS lose gracefully....

Yes I did nickel, unfortunately it wasn't graceful in the slightest. I was mortified as I'd been telling some other mums about how clumsy DD was.
I still have little scabs on my knees and it was about a week ago.

ow :(

poor kreecher.