Help! I'm in snoring hell!

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Am on the verge of killing my wonderful DP. He has always snored & I used to be able to sleep through it, but it's getting worse. It no longer makes a difference how he is lying (back, front, propped up on pillows) have tried olbas oil to try clear his airway but nothing works. All I can do is wake him up, but as soon as he's back to sleep it starts again.

Am soooooooo tired between DP's snoring & getting up to feed DS. DS is actually v good only waking at 10.30, 2.30 & 6.00 for food but in-between can't sleep for DP's snoring !

Have suggested he see his GP which went down like a lead balloon. Only other thought is to sleep apart which I don't want.

Surely there is a cure?

Earplugs

They don't work.

The answer is seperate bedrooms :) or killing him ;)

Tried earplugs, they dull the noise to a point but when he really gets going they're useless. Also find them uncomfortable. Thanks for suggestion though.

Tee hee! Will let him know he has 2 choices, death or the sofa bed see which he prefers! Have heard snoring gets worse as you get older, he's only 34 they'll be able to hear him down the street in a few years!

i sleep in the spare room now

i hate holidays where the bed is less than super huge lol

Sorry GP is the way forward. Or you could try those nose springy things. Is he uh on the larger size? you can google sleep scores which see if it is affecting him as well. Might give you more ammunition if he scores enough (or fill it in fir him before bringing it up - don't want to give him ammunition to not go to GP/do something about it)

Epworth Sleepiness Test

this website may help

We have seperate rooms because I snore so badly. I have tried all the nose sprays, strips and mouth shield things and nothing worked. Being in seperate rooms means we both get to sleep properly without me trying to stay awake so I didn't disturb dh or him kicking me or trying to turn me so he could sleep.

I don't have that elusive cure, but DH snores and unless it's a baby I'm murderous very 'unreasonable' at being kept awake at night and would end up escalating from prodding him to giving him a hard kick every time he woke me up.

Which wouldn't go down too well with him

But the key for us was to both accept it was no good me blaming him for snoring or him blaming me for getting woken up.

For some reason once we'd accepted it was nobodys fault it took the heat out of it and I was able to relax a bit more.

I know it's not easy to relax though once you've got it into your head that he's an annoying fuck and you end up listening out for him like a dripping tap, but I don't see any problem in having separate rooms/beds etc, whatever works for you.

DH had surgery on his septum. It was deviated and caused him not only to snore, but stop breathing too.
I'd go and see your GP.

Spare rooms here too i'm afraid. I manage to stay with DP until DS wakes me up for the first time then i have to take myself off to the spare room as there would be no way i could get back to sleep listening to DP's snores.

Yep, separate rooms. DH went to the GP and was referred to a sleep clinic. He's been diagnosed with sleep apnoea and is trying out a few different things to help. Hopefully something will work, it will be nice to sleep in the same bed again.

I've got that - I look like a cut price cyberwoman with the CPAP and mask - but it works!!

My DH snores but only if he has dairy products on an evening. He used to have milk and biscuits before bed, but the noise was horrendous. He changed to cereal (no I don't get the difference either, obviously a man thing) and as it was less milk, the snoring was less.

He has been working away from home and I had 4 months of peaceful sleep. He is now back and I hit the roof after the second night of sleeping next to a pneumatic drill. So milk is now banned on an evening.

I did make a milky dessert the other night, and even that caused it even though it was several hours before bed.

My MiL told me about the dairy thing - I was very sceptical at first, but she said it was what made FiL snore. I now know it to be true as my DH hardly ever snores at night now.

Does your DH have milk or other dairy in the evening?

Ooh thanks for all the responses, lots of things to try before I have to relegate him permanently to the sofa bed!

Springbok - he 's not particularly big but will try scoring him before he's despatched to the GP.

Navyblue - have read the dairy thing will keep an eye on what he has in the evening

Had a lovely nap in the garden in the sunshine to make up for last nights terrible sleep, bliss!

i sympathise as i am in that same position, night feeds and snoring DH, his gp told him to lose weight, he hasnt, its madness, would love to find a cure as i cant get warm when he sleeps in the next room

DH snores beyond belief, esp when he's been drinking.
I get more and more annoyed & aggressive but nothing works anyway.
I move out.

I do worry about his breathing sometimes when he's snoring badly, I have told him that his breathing gets irregular but he doesn't seem bothered.

And he's overweight too but does nothing about that either.

Ear plugs work for me.

Sorry to bring down the mood (although you must understandably be pretty grumpy from the lack of sleep!)

But your dp actually does need to see a gp. He could have sleep apnoea. BTW it is a total misconception that only overweight people get it. My dad has suffered since his late teens and he was skinny.

People often see snoring as funny, but sleep apnoea can kill as the sufferer stops breathing during the night. My dad uses a CPAP machine which keeps his airways open.

I probably seem all melodramatic here but please persuade him to get checked out.

You could be me.
DH and I used to fall asleep together but he always ended up on the sofabed cos I cannot stand the noise, so now he just sleeps there most of the time.
Its him who snores therefore its me who gets the comfy bed
We always have a cuddle before I go to sleep in our room so I dont miss him really, holidays are hard tho.