I'm new to this MN. But thought some unbiased opinions may help.
I do not get a long with my Mother. I had a miserable childhood. My Father was an alcoholic. My mother was happy to send me off to say with him (they divorced when I was 6). In her words "you would have been angry if I intervened". I'd cry because he wouldn't turn up or I'd be frightened at his house because he was really drunk and being agressive. At home I spent all my time arguing with my Mother. She's very opinated, and emotionally detached (unless shouting at you).
Fast forward 30 odd years. My Dad has been dead three years. Im walking at egg shells around my Mother. For example, we take in a third reuse cat. I finally tell my Mother, because she is coming for Christmas. She starts shouting down the phone "why have you got another?" "tell me you will never get another one" me in irate voice "no, I will be not getting another one". Fast forward to Christmas. It was awful. My husband said "she ruined Xmas, I wish I hadn't invited her". Anyway, three months later she has told my Aunt. She has had enough. She said she felt uncomfortable at Christmas. She said she wants nothing to do with me (and her grandson) because I didnt reply to her New Year text(I didnt reply to anyone). Secondly because I said to her "stop drying up. When I go to other peoples houses I don't put away their washing". After she carried on I walked away". She said "I'd been really cruel". I've called her since, but she hasn't replied. She sent me a £10 present on my Bday, and she got my sons Bday wrong. How do I deal with her?
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To find my Mother impossible to deal with?
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faymous · 08/04/2011 10:09
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