To be upset that my mother only ever asks after dd?

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not ds and doesn't ask how pregnancy no 3 is going. It's as if she forgets. Not with christmas gifts etc, but in conversation. She has health issues to deal with but still it makes me cross and sad. And if it continues it won't be long before ds notices.

Its a bit odd. When you say health issues what do you mean? I just wonder if she may have memory issues. Have you said something?

Do you mean dd has health issues and therefore your mother asks after her for that reason?

Maybe she asks because DD is the oldest (I assume) and so it is all 'firsts'. Not that that is a valid reason.

How old is DD? How old is DS? How far along in the preganancy are you?

No, my mother has health issues. Dd is five, ds two and I'm thirty weeks pg. Suppose just having a few dodgy days and feeling unsympathetic towards her. She can't help it, she's very self absorbed because her health us poor and it's prob a stretch to remember there's a world outside her own life let alone three ( nearly ) grandchildren.

Could it be because DD is at school - so DM wants to know how she's getting on with her reading, if she's been star of the week etc. DS is probably just as important - just not particualrly at a stage where it's easy to talk about what he's up to - ie would be the same 90% of the time, nursery/toddlers/annoying DD etc. She may also not want to meddle to much re the pregnancy and thinks if theres anything to say then you'll say it.

Could be right. Could be because dd is the trailblazer. I think she's less interested in boys generally. When she talks about other people's dc she raves about the girls but seldom has good word for the boys. But maybe I'm hormonal and paranoid.