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mother in law

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twerpstomper · 06/04/2011 22:25

our son was stillborn at 38 weeks. my mother in law who has very little to do with our 2 other children had a tatoo of my sons name and date of birth she tells me and my hubby how much pain shes in coz of loss of grandson and all i want to say is how about showing our two living children a bit of attention. Everytime I see the tatoo it makes me so angry. I think she should have asked us what we felt about it before she had it done. Is cutting her arm off unreasonable

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squeakytoy · 06/04/2011 22:26

Sorry for your loss :( , and no, you are not being unreasonable. I would be livid. What does your husband say about it?

Newgolddream · 06/04/2011 22:26

Im so sorry for your loss and nothing anyone can say will make you feel better, but you are in my thoughts. Emotions will be running high just now.

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 06/04/2011 22:27

deffinatly not, can i do it for you Wink

CocktailQueen · 06/04/2011 22:27

Twerp, I'm so sorry. Hugs.

As for your MIL, how bizarre she is. No idea why she's done that. Have you asked her why she's done it and why she ignores your DCs?

twerpstomper · 06/04/2011 22:30

husband wants nothing to do with mum because of attitude towards are littleones! and yes anyone is welcome to chop her arm off for me!!

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bubblecoral · 06/04/2011 22:30

So very sorry for your sad loss.

It sounds like she is an attention seeking sort of person that wants to make everthing about herself.

People that do things like that are usually seriously lacking something in their lives.

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 06/04/2011 22:31

got it covered... anytime twerps.

twerpstomper · 06/04/2011 22:33

that is so accurate do you know my mil

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 06/04/2011 22:33

she is a very sad women, your husband has the right attitude tbh, you need to concentrate on your family and leave her to it, she is missing out and one day she will look back with regret, she cant continue to use your ds to get attention atleast not from you, please make a clean break, let her crawl back when she learns how to treat people

FabbyChic · 06/04/2011 22:34

Sorry for your loss, you should remind her it was you who lost the child and you who knows more than anyone the pain it causes, however there are two little ones that are here and that do need love and attention and they shouldn't be forgotton in the name of grief.

squeakytoy · 06/04/2011 22:36

She sounds like my husbands ex-wife. It is exactly the sort of thing she would do, to get sympathy and attention. She thrives on making everyone know how upset she is about things, and turns it into being all about her.

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 06/04/2011 22:42

its quite shocking how many people there are like this out there, im thinking of you twerps

twerpstomper · 06/04/2011 22:44

asked her today why she wasnt coming to dd 6th birthday party her reply was because all dd friends and family would be there!!! I replied thats what a bday party is all about getting together to celebrate! very strange reason for not coming!!!which hurts my feelings i lost my mum last november and my dd wants her grandma there so much I have no control over that. so realy wanted her nanny there for her

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blackeyedsusan · 06/04/2011 22:54

I think tattoos hurt... take comfort in that... Grin

got a rusty saw under the stairs could leave it in the garden in the rain and i wouldn't be disappointed if it went missing

Sorry for your loss. ditto fabby chic

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 06/04/2011 22:55

very strange, seriously dont let her get to you, seems like she has ALOT of issues.

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 06/04/2011 22:56

blackeyed just made me spit-spray water on my laptop

twerpstomper · 06/04/2011 22:56

so glad i came on here your comments have lifted my mood thank u x will be back

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twerpstomper · 06/04/2011 22:59

blackeyed very grateful for use of very rusty saw

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 06/04/2011 23:08

twerp be warned its highly addictive, i visited 2yrs ago for bf/ff advice and never left, i popped online to check mail and two hours later im still here...

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