To think this is patronising?

[SpeedyGonzalez]

3 people are having a convo.

Person 1 asks Person 2 a question. Person 2 says "oh, everyone asks that." and then answers question.

Convo continues.

After a while Person 3 asks Person 2 a question. Person 2 says "now that's an interesting question!" and answers.

AIBU to think that Person 3 is therefore being patronising to Person 1?

Person 2 is full of his / her own self importance.

YANBU

YABU.

How was Person 3 to know what reply Person 2 was going to give in comparison to the reply that was given to Person 1?

Isn't it Person 2 who is being patronising to Person 1?

Depends what the questions were, surely?? If P1 is, say, a famous celeb and P2 asks 'what's it like to be famous?' and then P3 asks something like 'what is the most delicious meal you have ever eaten and why? ' for example, then no, not patronising. If you ask a boring question you'll get a boring answer!:)

Caa we please rename them Nigel, Mildred and Camilla. Then I could keep track a bit better

So what was the interesting question?

I think we need both the questions.

Also, was it the ^same6 question each time. In which case, Mildred may have dementia

I agree with Yama

Pardon? I mean... pardon? I don't understand at ALL where the patronising comes in?

Yrbu and a Wally

I think OP means person 2, was being patronising to person 1.

(Dismisses P1's Q, emphasises how interesting P3's Q is, thereby implying that P1's Q was not.)

depends on the tone of voice maybe

FlamingJamie

Depends on the tone.

Maybe she just found the question interesting and is direct about what she feels, instead of being fake?

But what about person 4, 5 & 6 I mean, how did they feel? And if it was in Costas? what about the Barista?

You're right about the names, sorry!

Let's call Person 1 Mildred, Peraon 2 RudeMechanical and Person 3 Scout.

Scout is a RL friend of mine, who told me t'other day that Mildred accused her of being patronising, and cited this story as evidence.

And Yama, you are spot on - that would make sense. But Mildred is accusing Scout, not RudeMechanical.

Depends what the question was, if person 1's question was really inane then they probably deserved it a little.

Scout has no recollection of this convo, by the way, she said it was years ago.

Oh. In which case Mildred doesn't understand what patronising means. You have a golden opportunity to show her by being really patronising about that

No its not Camilla who is being patronizing to SpeedyGonzalez Nigel, its Mildred surely?

Mildred is being unreasonable. Scout should just tell her not to be so ridiculous and wave off her accusation .

Depends on whether or not person 1 has slept with person 3's husband....