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AIBU?

To think this is patronising?

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SpeedyGonzalez · 06/04/2011 18:26

3 people are having a convo.

Person 1 asks Person 2 a question. Person 2 says "oh, everyone asks that." and then answers question.

Convo continues.

After a while Person 3 asks Person 2 a question. Person 2 says "now that's an interesting question!" and answers.

AIBU to think that Person 3 is therefore being patronising to Person 1?

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Numberfour · 06/04/2011 18:27

Person 2 is full of his / her own self importance.

YANBU

SoupDragon · 06/04/2011 18:28

YABU.

theonlywayisdevon · 06/04/2011 18:31

How was Person 3 to know what reply Person 2 was going to give in comparison to the reply that was given to Person 1?

yama · 06/04/2011 18:31

Isn't it Person 2 who is being patronising to Person 1?

DELHI · 06/04/2011 18:32

Depends what the questions were, surely?? If P1 is, say, a famous celeb and P2 asks 'what's it like to be famous?' and then P3 asks something like 'what is the most delicious meal you have ever eaten and why? ' for example, then no, not patronising. If you ask a boring question you'll get a boring answer!:)

FlamingJamie · 06/04/2011 18:32

Caa we please rename them Nigel, Mildred and Camilla. Then I could keep track a bit better

valiumredhead · 06/04/2011 18:33

So what was the interesting question?

MortenHasNiceShirts · 06/04/2011 18:36

I think we need both the questions.

FlamingJamie · 06/04/2011 18:36

Also, was it the ^same6 question each time. In which case, Mildred may have dementia

onehotmomma · 06/04/2011 19:20

I agree with Yama

cupofteaplease · 06/04/2011 19:22

Pardon? I mean... pardon? I don't understand at ALL where the patronising comes in?

Etalb · 06/04/2011 19:23

Yrbu and a Wally

MotherMucca · 06/04/2011 19:25

I think OP means person 2, was being patronising to person 1.

(Dismisses P1's Q, emphasises how interesting P3's Q is, thereby implying that P1's Q was not.)

vegetariandumpling · 06/04/2011 19:27

depends on the tone of voice maybe

MotherMucca · 06/04/2011 19:27

FlamingJamie

YouaretooniceNOT · 06/04/2011 19:29

Depends on the tone.

Maybe she just found the question interesting and is direct about what she feels, instead of being fake?

voiceofnoreason · 06/04/2011 19:40

But what about person 4, 5 & 6 I mean, how did they feel? And if it was in Costas? what about the Barista?

Clytaemnestra · 06/04/2011 20:03

Depends what the question was, if person 1's question was really inane then they probably deserved it a little.

SpeedyGonzalez · 06/04/2011 20:03

You're right about the names, sorry!

Let's call Person 1 Mildred, Peraon 2 RudeMechanical and Person 3 Scout.

Scout is a RL friend of mine, who told me t'other day that Mildred accused her of being patronising, and cited this story as evidence.

And Yama, you are spot on - that would make sense. But Mildred is accusing Scout, not RudeMechanical.

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SpeedyGonzalez · 06/04/2011 20:04

Scout has no recollection of this convo, by the way, she said it was years ago.

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Clytaemnestra · 06/04/2011 20:04

Oh. In which case Mildred doesn't understand what patronising means. You have a golden opportunity to show her by being really patronising about that

KurriKurri · 06/04/2011 20:06

No its not Camilla who is being patronizing to SpeedyGonzalez Nigel, its Mildred surely?

yama · 06/04/2011 20:07

Mildred is being unreasonable. Scout should just tell her not to be so ridiculous and wave off her accusation .

SpeedyGonzalez · 06/04/2011 20:21

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whatsallthehullaballoo · 06/04/2011 20:32

Depends on whether or not person 1 has slept with person 3's husband....

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