My mother died recently, and my brothers and I agreed that her ashes should be kept at the funeral directors until we decided what sort of ceremony we would do for scattering them. We are not religious, and neither was she, and personally the ashes don't hold any significance to me, apart from being the ashes of a much loved mother.
Anyway, last Friday, my brother suddenly decided that he didn't want the ashes left at the funeral directors over the weekend. Not sure why - but bereaved people are allowed to be irrational. I was going to go with him, but at the last minute I couldn't, so I said it was all right for him to go alone rather than leave it til the Monday because it was so important to him. So he said he would go by himself.
But he didn't. His wife went with him. Now I KNOW I'm being irrational - but I really feel alone should have meant alone in this case - and if he couldn't face it alone he should have waited and we would have gone together on the Monday. I love my SIL - she's fab. But I hate the thought that she probably held the casket - she doesn't drive, so my brother wouldn't have been able to.
Would you have taken someone else to do this if you had said you were goiong alone? I wouldn't have - am I being silly?