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To want him to go to bed!

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Lucyinthepie · 05/04/2011 20:00

He came home from work.
Me "How was your day?"
Him "Oh... not good..."
Thinking the business has gone under I head for the kitchen where he is hunched over the kettle making tea. "I've got the fucking flu again. I can't believe I've got it again!". No, neither can I, it was definitely a cold last time but I got into terrible trouble for saying that.
"Oh dear, poor you, can I get you anything?"
Him "No" sigh, sniffle, moaning noises, "I'll just go to bed".
Me "Oh dear, poor you, OK then". Plans a happy evening in front of a pay-per-view chick flick with a bottle of something nice.
Two hours later he's still drooping round the house sniffling and sighing in his dressing gown, socks and slippers. He's got the sofa, he's got the remote control clutched firmly in his feverish hand and he's watching How It's Made.

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Flisspaps · 05/04/2011 20:01

Take the remote. Quite obviously wipe it with anti-bac. Stick your film on.

Have a lovely night

Changing2011 · 05/04/2011 20:02

yabbu sock him in the mouth with a hot water bottle. I CANNOT ABIDE men when they are ill.

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Lucyinthepie · 05/04/2011 20:28

Problem is, he'd sit in a corner and sniffle. It would spoil the film.

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roomonthebroom · 05/04/2011 20:29

Is your DH actually my DH? He often sometimes comes in moping and I worry about whether he is having serious business problems, then he goes on to say 'my toe is fucking killing me' because I hacked my ingrown toenail with the scissors instead of taking your advice and going to podiatrist, or bleating about some other trivial ache or pain. And he wonders why I'm not sympathetic when he's actually ill :o

Evict him from the sofa and enjoy your film

squeakytoy · 05/04/2011 20:31

how can my husband be in your house when he is sat here sneezing and putting on a "deaths door" face...

He came home earlier than usual, and told me how sore his throat was, and he ached all over, and he didnt know if he would make it past 7pm before he was in bed...

He "struggled" to eat a massive plate of chicken, potatoes and veg, and is still lying on the sofa looking all sorry for himself...

(He told someone recently that he had got swine flu 3 times last year.. ).. he didnt, it was a cold...

femalevictormeldrew · 05/04/2011 20:33

It could be my husband you are talking about. Only my DH is an awful lot worse. If he gets a nick on his finger he thinks he will get gangerene. Sickens my arse, and it at the point that I just smile and nod and some day, when he really is genuinely ill, I won't believe him

Trinaluce · 05/04/2011 20:46

Oh god, I hate DH when he's ill. When HE'S ill, he gets to stay in bed, take the day off work, while I keep DD out the way and cook his dinner.

When I'M ill I take the day off work - which means DD stays home (she's at a nursery onsite where I work half an hour away, no point making the trip if I'm off) and she pokes me in the eye. When he gets home he wonders why I'm not getting any better, then lets DD get under my feet in the kitchen while I cook his dinner....

I'm coming back as a man or a cat in my next life.

jan123 · 05/04/2011 20:49

Oh my husband is exactly the same...spend's his night on the sofa snifffing really loudly in case I can't hear him....and constantly asking is there any chance of a sandwich,cup of tea biscuits whatever.....he's doing my head in..

ilovemyhens · 05/04/2011 22:26

I think we are married to the same man

addictedtofrazzles · 05/04/2011 22:31

I thought we might be married to the same man...but I bet your husband's ingrown toe was not hacked by the kitchen scissors (he was busted - it was never condoned behaviour).

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Lucyinthepie · 05/04/2011 22:38

That's made me wince - kitchen scissors!
Eventually he sniffled off at 9 o'clock. He managed to force down two cuppa soups. I settled for the mindless Nice Day for a Greek Wedding. When I went out in the kitchen I saw the bread out on the counter and realised he's eaten the last three slices of bread. So no toast tomorrow. I decided to eat the slice of chocolate gateaux that was left in the fridge from yesterday... you know the one I mean? Yes, that slice I offered to him at about 8 o'clock and he pulled a face as if I'd suggested he swallow razor blades. Guess what? The fairies have eaten it. It must have been the fairies because obviously he couldn't possibly have eaten it in his sorry state.
I am shocked to realise that so many of us share the same man. Who's got him at the moment? I thought I'd persuaded him to kip in the spare room (so that I don't get disturbed by the sniffling and tossing and turning in an attempt to elicit pity fever). Obviously he's not there and one of you is suffering.

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lemmein · 05/04/2011 22:41

You're all too soft!!

If my DH is ill he either goes to bed or STFU - I'm patient for half hour then he just irritates me. Couldn't be doing with all this making cups of tea and rubbing Vicks into his chest.

My DH normally says something like 'my heads killing me - has been for the last 4 days' It winds me up because I know he's lying. Like he's ever had an headache for longer than 4 minutes without informing me. No way has he been suffering quietly for 4 days!

My dad phoned me the other day and spent 20 minutes going on about his bad toe - why would I want to know about his toe? I've got thrush this week - did I mention it? NO.

shakey1500 · 05/04/2011 22:44

To be fair my dh is pretty stoical (will refuse painkillers until the nth hour but will not be martyr-esque about it) BUT one thing he does winds me up something chronic. He literally has zero sympathy. And there's times when all I need is a little comforting response (like I give him) and an offer of...something. For instance if I've not slept at all (I am having problems sleeping at the moment) I'll say "Jeez, I'm shattered, not slept at all" His response will be "Well I've only had 4 hours..." like it's a competition. All I'd like (which I've mentioned to him) is a bit of empathy NOT an unwritten application for "Who has slept the least" competition.

Same with anything. I've got period cramps, my oste-oarthritis is playing up the response is "Well go back to the doctors then" when a simple "Anything I can do? Run you a bath?" etc would suffice.

addictedtofrazzles · 05/04/2011 22:44

What is is with men and toes????

I strongly recommend that you all disinfect your kitchen utensils. God know what they are doing with them when we are not looking???

shakey1500 · 05/04/2011 22:45

Same with anything. I've got period cramps, my oste-oarthritis is playing up the response is "Well go back to the doctors then" when a simple "Anything I can do? Run you a bath?" etc would suffice.

Flowerpotmummy · 05/04/2011 22:45

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shakey1500 · 05/04/2011 22:45

oops, twice apparantly!

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Lucyinthepie · 05/04/2011 22:52

Well, I wasn't very nice, I made a few sympathetic noises, but I let him sort out his own cuppa soups (and bread, and cake...). He said "I think I'd better sleep on my own tonight, I'll only keep you awake" (sad eyes, sniffle) I said "OK fine, the spare bed's made up so you'll be fine in there.
Our bed is the posh one with nice springs and memory foam. It would be wasted on him if he's not going to be able to sleep properly.
You should hear the snores.

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Lucyinthepie · 06/04/2011 09:30

It's a miracle! In spite of being almost in a state of collapse with flu, he has gone off to work this morning.

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BabyYoureAFirework · 06/04/2011 09:41

Fucking hell, I'm glad I'm single

My exh did this ALL THE TIME. It contributed massively to the breakdown of our marriage, because had it gone on much longer, I might have actually killed him.

What is that thing of lying on the sofa to garner more sympathy, when they could just go to bed? It drives me crazy. I feel for you, OP.

lesley33 · 06/04/2011 09:41

I must work with your DH! A colleague who works a few desks away is regularly very ill (according to him). He will look sorry for himself and inform us all that he has struggled in with the flu because he has so much work. In reality he has "struggled" in with a slight sniffle.

However a year ago, he started to complain about a severe pain in his abdomen. We all just ignored him or told him to take some paracetomel. That night he was admitted to hospital with appendicitis and had his appendix removed.

jeckadeck · 06/04/2011 11:35

shakey1500 you and I are definitely married to the same man. If I so much as yawn he will go "huh! you think you are tired?... I carried a thousand ton piece of steel a mile/held Tower Bridge open for two hours/walked on hot coals."

gkys · 06/04/2011 12:10

we are related, or at least our dh's are, mine currently has the flu, he sneezed twice yesterday so i know hes right , if you are ill take your bugs and go to bed! i had cronic period pains cramps last week, told dh i had cramps, his response " i felt like that all day too, do you think it was something we ate last night?" pain is the only thing he is competative about. last year he fell off the trampoline after showing off he skills to his friends (yes still dh 44 not son 4 ) winged for a few days he couldn't walk or breathe the usual, took him to a & e in the end to shut him up, he had broken a couple of ribs of course he milked that one for weeks, i feel your pain, give him some broncial balsam, its a cure all, he won't want it twice.

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