DD is home for the university holidays. She normally works full-time in these, but is starting to take some time off to do her uni work. Today, she stayed home whilst we all went out to work, so she could do an essay. She also hung up the washing, walked the dog, and collected a package for DH.
DH gets in from work and immediately shouts up the stairs to her to 'come and clean up her mess' and that the 'kitchen is a state.' DD had made a sandwich and left the filling in a pan to cool, with a bowl ready for it to go into next to the stove. DD objects to being told what to do without so much as a 'hello' from DH, and points out that she had already washed up everything which could be and that an errant pan does not a state make. She's rather upset at being shouted at, but is DH BU? She probably should have washed the pan up, but she was working and honestly most likely forgot about it. DH is insisting he's in the right to have had a go at her. I'm feeling a bit more sympathetic towards her!