to think that £250 is a bit steep for a hen night?

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jinxediam · 05/04/2011 17:07

I agreed to go to my friends friend night and now her friend has contacted us all to give details of the itinery and i'm a bit at the cost!!! Since when did hen nights get so expensive??

I think i'm the only one with DC's so maybe i'm a bit more credit crunched then most but even so I am faily speechless at the cost. Its all been booked so I feel bad about pulling out yet this is way out of my budget. AIBU to feel like cancelling or is this how much hen nights cost these days?

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manicinsomniac · 05/04/2011 18:51

That's an insane amount of money. You shouldn't have to spend that if you can't afford it easily/don't want to do it. And nobody should expect you to.

Hen Nights have got ridiculous in the last few years.

Batteryhuman · 05/04/2011 18:52

Makes me glad I'm so old.......whats wrong with a good night out and a hangover the next day?

Batteryhuman · 05/04/2011 18:53

With a hen tea cosy on your head?

Asteria · 05/04/2011 19:10

YANBU - if you stary adding up how much it will all cost with the little extras (transport there, that extra drink, something to wear etc) and then add the wedding costs too (rarely less than £250), suddenly your friend's wedding becomes an incredibly expensive event for everyone! I have turned down two hen weekends that were over £400 each - it was horrible having to say (yet again) that I couldn't afford to do it.

I did a hen weekend for a friend, her brief was "cheap and lots of countryside". 12 of us piled into a really sweet little cottage on the coast, within easy reach of all the partygoers. It was self catering so we budgeted for that and I cooked up lots of food the day before we went. We ate out one night and went to the pub to watch the Rugby during the day (food was paid for from the kitty). It was a really fabulous weekend and it only cost us £70 each (plus transport to the cottage).

I would want exactly the same - I just need to find a willing victim participant for the weddingy bit!

MillsAndDoom · 05/04/2011 19:37

What sort of jobs do these bridezillas have who expect people to pay 3 x the average weekly food bill on a night all about the bride? They must be feckin loaded

cookcleanerchaufferetc · 05/04/2011 19:53

YANBu!

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jinxediam · 05/04/2011 20:13

if I dont stay overnight in the hotel or go to the club I can shave off £120 easily...think that is going to be the best compromise! Such a shame but i've gone through the figures and I cant make the whole night less than £250 otherwise which is just madness.

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NessyBay · 05/04/2011 20:28

One of my best friends hen nights was going to cost me over £300 BEFORE food and drinks + they were all taking the monday off work (I can't - teach).

I had to say I couldn't justify that sort of money...on top of her wedding cost - wait for it that £700 travel + accomodation. This is before dress/presents etc

What really upset me the most was she didn't say 'oh, don't worry, I totally understand' she just said nothing.

How the hell can people not feel bad expecting that sort of money to be spent on a piss up, basically.

Infuriates me.

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