In Laws don't want my ds for overnight stay because he gets up too early

[pingu2209]

AIBU? I hope I explain this well:

We moved across the country 3 years ago but travel back to where we used to live about 3 times a year. My dh comes from where we used to live, but I come from where we live now. We moved for my dh job, not for me/my family.

As we lived in the original area for 14 years (my dh all his life) I had built up lots of friendships and was close to my dh family. When we travel back to see friends and family, family get really annoid at us because we don't spend as much time with them as they would like, because we are also seeing friends.

There is a reason for this; we are a family of 5 so finding hotel accommodation is very difficult. We can get a cheap family room (for 4) but that leaves 1 of us spare. My friends always offer to put up either me or one of my children (specifically my ds1 age 7). Because we are taking their hospitality, in a weekend break, we spend 1 whole day with my friends. I do want to spend time with my friends, but that leaves only 1 other day to split between BIL and FIL (who don't speak so I can't combine them both).

It is becoming difficult between dh and his family so we explained that it would be rude not to spend a day with my friends if they are putting one of us up for 2 nights. My FIL can't put anyone up but my BIL can easily so I asked my BIL if we could drop my ds1 with them and then we would spend more time together when we came over. He said no because my ds gets up at 7ish and at the weekends their family like to sleep in till 10 (their dc are 13, 10 and 7).

AIBU to think for 1 weekend a couple of times a year of getting up at 7am is something to expect from a brother and uncle?

Totally agree with pommedeterre - seriously just don't go - what's the worse that could happen? If your DH feels strongly that he wants to see his brother can't he pop over on his own for a drink or something like that?

I hate being woken early on a morning and above 6 ours were told to stay in their rooms until someone told them it was time to get up or 8am.
I suspect most parents who aren't strict re getting up times are early wakers themselves.
I was brought up fairly strictly re going to bed and getting up times and have been similar with my kids. Different when they are toddlers.

I think I must be doing something wrong, there is no way my ds would read quietly in bed with everyone else asleep. He would just have to wake someone up.

My dh wants to see his brother more, he loves him, but he is also embarrassed that his brother and SIL put us in the position they do. He was more angry than I was about the £120 lunch. If my BIL says something to my dh again I think there will be 'words' about it, but that won't happen till we go back, which won't be for a while.