to expect OH to do something in the mornings

[Niceguy2]

This is the situation. OH has recently started a new job and has to leave the house at 8am.

Previous to this she's always been a SAHM for the time we've been together.

The old routine was that I'd wake up at 7:30am and I'd sort DS out ready for school. OH would wake at 8:30 and sort DSS out then take him to nursery. No problems with that.

Now she's started work, the routine has had to change. Except now she wakes at 7am. She'll spend the entire hour getting herself ready, making her own lunch and eating breakfast before leaving the house with her breakfast still out & any mess she "didnt get time" to clear up from her lunch.

I still get up at 7:30. I have to now get both kids ready before walking DSS to nursery which makes me then 30 mins late every day to start work. Luckily my job is fairly flexible since I work from home so its not a huge deal but I do feel guilty still when I am not online at 9am. Oh not to mention I have to then spend my lunch hour fetching him then miss more time whilst I make him his lunch have him wittering away in the background all afternoon.

It's not that I'm expecting her to do loads. Just something!...other than the entire hour getting herself ready. Eg. Put clothes on DSS or get him some breakfast....Hell even finish a cup of tea! (This morning she managed to pour water into a cup).

How do other families manage when both parents work?

[hecate]

No it's not just you. read upthread and I said it!

[cestlavielife]

you both working now get a cleaner/ironer .