My mum has MS - the type you have all the time - she is totally disabled cant go the loo by herself or pour a cup of tea - nothing.
My dad has dementia. He is mums carer. Mum totally refuses to have any help from outside in. So all they do is shout, argue and hate each other. He is angry with her and often cruel to her. She is intolerant of his condition and seems to believe he forgets things to annoy her.
I have tried social workers and doctors but no one is able to help as mum refuses help.
She seems to thinki accepting outside help is loosing control but she has no control now - i think it would give her control - but she refuses to see it.
They are both getting really depressed - and i am worried sick - not sleeping etc. Dh tells me what will happen will happen and to stop worrying but how can I. It is a hopeless situation.