to be feeling a bit guilty because my DH is wonderful?

[Pandamoanium]

Now, first of all, he's not perfect by any means - some areas of our marriage are not all they might be. However, I have had a long term serious illness that has meant I have been off work for months now. As I am the main breadwinner, this is very worrying as I may have to resign soon. I am terrified about losing my career. DH is disabled and unable to go to work, but he has put all of his own problems on one side and looked after me with care and so much love whilst I have been at home. He struggles hard to do all of the shopping and cooking, sorting out everything to do with our ASD son and all of the household stuff. He has got in a cleaner and a guy to help in the garden.

Every day, he cuddles me and tells me that he loves me so much and that I am "the light of his life".

Then, I come on here and read all of the awful things on AIBU and Relationships, with women asking for help with their totally dreadful men and I am shocked rigid that anyone can behave like that. I really want to help, but can't really offer any advice in those situations. I am in awe of the wise people on here who do so much.

But I now feel guilty for ever moaning at all about DH!

I have an amazing DH too, at this very moment I am in bed with a nasty virus and he has been to work, cooked tea, made me brews, brought me painkillers and is now doing bathtime for DS. And I've just moaned at him for making a mess cooking tea! I am a spoiled madam, we are lucky ladies :D

Your DH sounds like he deserves a knighthood!

I think he does BeingHumum! It's just that all of these terrible threads have me wondering about men in general. There must be some decent blokes out there!

Don´t feel guilty-you obviously deserve him!

mine is lovely too

in face i dont tell him often enough

fact

My DH rocks. I'm not even sorry for bragging about it. I know how lucky I am and am very, very grateful that I was lucky enough to meet him.

If some of you didn't have wonderful DHs and DPs, the rest of us would give up all hope, it's good to know there are some decent men around!

You do begin to wonder Jellykat. We are hoping that our 2 DSs will turn out OK too - neither have had a girlfriend as yet!

My DH has been exactly the same for the entire decade of our relationship. I had no qualms espousing his wonderful nature to all and sundry - how helpful he was whilst we were both out working to create the best future for our family. When he saw I was struggling, he got a cleaner, he helped out at home, got up in the early mornings with our DS to give me a lie-in when I needed them most, took time off work to help me on the few rare occasions I offered to baby-sit other friends' children just so I wasn't overwhelmed. I always thought I could never tell him how much I appreciated having him as a husband and what a brilliant patient father he was to our son.

Then I found out he was cheating on me.

Now my motto is NEVER feel guilty about appreciating what you have, but NEVER be naive. On that bitter note ...

... as you were, ladies.

I'm certain that the majority of men are out there being the best husbands and fathers that they can be. It's just we tend to only comment on the negative aspects of life.

I'm with you OP my dh is a fantastic husband/dad/friend/lover etc.
I've realised recently that I wasn't telling him how much I appreciated him enough, so have started to do so.
I've always told him how much i love him, but i think that being more specific helps him to see I mean it.