to think that next year I'll send the fucking flowers on Friday or not at all?

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Still steaming after phone conversation with my mother last night. I had ordered flowers for her for Mothers' Day and had arranged for them to be delivered (at extra charge) on Sunday, so they arrived on the actual day.

So she said "Oh I didn't go into town on Saturday as I thought you'd send flowers and I would wait in until they had come. They hadn't come by mid afternoon and I didn't know whether to go into town or not, and then Brenda came for a coffee and asked if she could see your flowers (FFS!) and it was so embarrassing, as I had to say they hadn't arrived. So anyway, she left at six, and said, well they won't be delivered now, she must have forgotten. And then your Auntie Elsie rang in the evening and wanted to know what your flowers were like and I felt really awful when I said that you hadn't sent any. And I was there all night on my own, wondering what had happened to my flowers, and if you had forgotten. Anyway, I was up early on the Sunday, and your Auntie Madge rang and asked what flowers I had got, and I had to say, you hadn't sent any. Anyway, I was on the phone, and the doorbell went, so I said I had to go and on the doorstep was the man with your flowers. They were quite nice, but the roses weren't pink, and I don't suppose they will last very long...."

And she hasn't called anyone in the family to say they turned up, so her sisters think I am shit and forgot mothers' day.

Just tell her to expect them on the actual day fgs.

Quite frankly I wouldn't send any again and would tell her why - how ungrateful!

The fact that both your aunts asked what her flowers were like shows that it's an expected thing- you obviously send them every year without fail. Make sure Auntie Mavis gets to know you paid extra to send them on a Sunday and your mum didn't even say thank you- then she will find out what it's like to be the subject of Bad Behaviour gossip!

Don't get her anything next time and then tell her why when she asks. Some parents are so ungrateful and have a sense of entitlement simply because they've 'made sacrifices' when they had kids. Not only that, but they expect something from their children on, say, mothers or fathers day/birthdays etc.

Sometimes your damned if you do and damned if you don't.

I´d go for the not at all option.

Wow talk about ungrateful! Isn't it normal for the flowers to arrive on the Sunday? Is in my world. Why was she expecting them early? And staying in all day and worrying about it all evening! She shounds hard work. I agree with the others, phone round and tell everyone.

Good grief.

I think I would be quite direct in response to all that and tell her you paid extra to have them delivered on M's day as a nice surprise on the day, and that you feel it is rude that she has not received tjhem in that spirit but uses you flowers as a point of status and competetion with other family members. And ask whether she actually appreciates the flowers or ust wnats soething to show off about? because this will affect your decision as to whether to send them next year or not.

YANBU.

My MIL is like this. Except that this year it was wrong that her flowers were delivered on the Saturday but she didn't get her card until Sunday (Sunday being, after all, Mothers Day).

After a nightmare Sunday lunch out with her, where she behaved more like a spoilt toddler than my children have ever done, I have vowed that next year we are goin away for Mother's Day weekend. Which will, of course, be wrong but we'll be too far away to hear

My MIL (and my mum when she was alive) would never dream to reacting like this. It's not on really is it!