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to be tired of listening to this mum moan?

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maxpower · 04/04/2011 17:10

DD started school in Jan, at the same time as X's son. Since then, X has moaned about:

the length of time the class teacher spends out of the classroom (based on her son's comments to her at the end of the day)
the poor communication from the school
the change in the school uniform
she thinks the supply teacher they sometimes use is useless
that the reception teacher is about to move to cover mat leave in another class (after easter hols - we only found out about it today)
she's also taken an unexplained dislike to one of the assistant heads

that's about all I can remember of her complaints right now.

I don't begrudge her the disatisfaction, in a number of cases I agree with her, but I'm sick and tired of her whinging to me about it. What does she think I'm going to do? AKAIK X worked in a different primary school up until her DS started school so I would assume that she knows the appropriate channels to raise her concerns through. It's getting to the point that I'm starting to avoid her in the playground because I just can't face listening to her!

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WhatsWrongWithYou · 04/04/2011 17:12

You'll learn to spot those types and take evasive action as your DD gets older, especially if you have younger siblings to go through the same experience with!


TheVisitor · 04/04/2011 17:12

I tend to take the piss a bit with negative people and interject with "and on the plus side...." with a smile on my face. usually makes them smile too Grin


grovel · 04/04/2011 17:16

Just be careful that she doesn't voice her complaints to the school with the tagline "and I know maxpower agrees with me". I happened to me - royal pain.


Ihavewelliesbuttheyrenotgreen · 04/04/2011 17:22

This has happened to me, not in the same situation but in life in general. Like me perhaps you're a bit of a pushover lovely person who stands there and listens and therefore she uses you as a sounding board. I think the best thing is probably to remind her of the appropriate channels that she needs to use to make complaints. It is a tricky situation though.


HeadfirstForHalos · 04/04/2011 17:30

I had this with an aquaintance, she removed her children from the school mine now go to (the head refused to ban a parent she had started an almighty row with from the school premises, and as her dc are little hooligans he wasn't desperate to stop her )

Each and every time we met up she would do nothing but moan about the school, so in the end I just started to bluntly reply with positive things like, "well I find it to be a very good school", "I haven't found that problem", "The school have been a wonderful source of support with regard to my middle two dcs autism" etc.

She soon got the hint and shut up Grin


HeadfirstForHalos · 04/04/2011 17:31

*the head wasn't desperate to stop her removing the dc

Sorry, that bit didn't make much sense!


maxpower · 04/04/2011 17:33

Although I do agree with her a bit, I don't actually tell her, largely because I don't want to encourage her to moan more - for that reason alone, I'd be mightily p'd off if she lumped me in with her opinions!

I do like her other than her moaning!

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charmum3 · 04/04/2011 17:38

oh no your suck with the moaning mum mafia chief member by the sounds of it, avoid her, or tell her to put her complaints in writting to the school, as there is not alot you can do about it, smile and leave it at that, next time she starts her rant ask if shes voiced her complaints, bet that will calm her down.

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