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I actually feel really upset, but not sure if IABU

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EmmaNate · 04/04/2011 15:50

or notSad.
i could just be getting irrationally upset because I am quite stressed and have a lot on at the minute.
my mum rang me to see if I had replied to the invite to future SIL's hen night.
I haven't had an invite to future SIls hen night.
Futures SIls 2 brothers girfriends are going , and my 5 female cousins have all been invited.
But not me.
I wouldn't say Future SIl and I are the best of friends because I don't live near them so don't see them that often, but we get on well enough when we do see each other.
But, I feel really upset by this

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BlingLoving · 04/04/2011 15:53

If so many people are invited, including your mum, I suspect that your invite went missing. Ask your mum to ask the person organising what the situation is.

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EmmaNate · 04/04/2011 15:55

Mine would obviosuly have to be posted, as were my cousin's ones. Apparently they all got theirs over 2 weeks ago

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SecretSlattern · 04/04/2011 15:55

Agree with Bling; I think its highly unlikely that you would be dropped out if the rest of your close-ish family have been invited. Maybe ask your mum to investigate on your behalf?

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EmmaNate · 04/04/2011 15:58

I might ask my mum to ask DB to "tactfully" find out if I'm invited.

I actually want to go to his stag day it sounds far more interesting,but he says noGrin

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carat · 04/04/2011 16:22

This happened to me. I wasn't invited, but everyone else was (about 25 people). I assumed my invitation went missing in the post, so when everyone told me about the dress code for the evening, I bought my outfit, arranged a couple of private tables at the club and put four bottle of champers on ice - all paid for in advance.

A few days before the event, future SIL sent me a text saying I wasn't invited, but thanks for the champagne and limo.

At the wedding, everyone said how embarrased they were as they assume I was invited and couldn't understand why she acted so horribly. She now deliverately ignores me and even her BF doesn't know what's going on.

I suggest you seek out the organiser, state that eveyone has mentioned it to you, so you assume you're invited and perhaps you could drop her a line with the info needed.

dontcallmepeanut · 04/04/2011 16:26

You think that's bad? I wasn't invited to my cousin's wedding. The rest of the family were, but they decided the trek would be too much for me, and decided not to bother...

But yeah, take Carat's advice/

Nagoo · 04/04/2011 16:28

OMG Carat Shock

OP if your cousins are all invited, I'm sure your invite just got lost.

slightlymad72 · 04/04/2011 16:37

Hopefully the invite is on its way.

I wasn't invited to my SIL hen night, she has been my SIL for 15yrs and before that she was my best mate 12yrs. My Mistake? I married her brother!!!

welshbyrd · 04/04/2011 16:38

Jeez carot

Poor you Shock

nickelbabyhatcher · 04/04/2011 16:40

carat Shock
i can't believe after you'd done all that, she accepted it and still didn't invite you Shock

diddl · 04/04/2011 16:41

Is she only inviting people who can live nearby?

dontcallmepeanut · 04/04/2011 16:42

Carat, your SIL sounds a prize bitch. She really does.

My SIL was genuinely upset that I couldn't make her hen do, as I was ill at the time.

wannaBe · 04/04/2011 16:45

bloody hell there are some bitch women out there.

Op - I would get your mum to enquire, and if you've not been invited I wouldn't let it upset you - do you really want to be close to someone who acts like that?

carat · 04/04/2011 16:47

sorry to hijack - SIL was always a tad jealous of me (god knows why), so I thought I'd invite her into my social circle so she could see that she really wasn't missing out on anything, I just have a wide circle of friends. I think she wanted to have her hen party all to herself and leave me on the outside, but instead she's become a monster - all very sad.

StewieGriffinsMom · 04/04/2011 16:48

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EmmaNate · 04/04/2011 16:48

I think the cheif bridesmaid - who really doesn't like me, has organised it all!

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StewieGriffinsMom · 04/04/2011 16:49

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diddl · 04/04/2011 16:50

OP-am wondering why your mum rang & not SIL, though?

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EmmaNate · 04/04/2011 16:51

Because the reply date is next week, and the replies have to be sent to bridesmaid, not future SIL

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BubblesMyBubbles · 04/04/2011 17:10

YANBU and I feel your pain.
Sounds like your DB and your Mum needs to do a bit of digging to found out whats going on.
If you're invited to the wedding presumably SIL would want people to come to the Hen Night before hand too? Obviously Great Aunt Edna may pass at that kind of scene, but I would have thought the both come hand in hand to a point? I didnt have a massive wedding but did invite all females who I knew would want to come.

My experience of similar is I wasnt invited to my dads wedding. I found out through a family member who by chance (as she never calls me usually) called me to see if I was looking forward to 2 days time. Of course I knew nothing of '2 days time' and was completely shocked that I wasnt invited. As were the rest of the family.
Maybe its because I was PG. Maybe its because.... Oh who fecking knows. No one does but him.

nickelbabyhatcher · 04/04/2011 17:29

Bubbles :(

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