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AIBU?

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to go upstairs with two toddlers at once?

17 replies

nellyjane · 04/04/2011 11:23

DS is 15 months. He's walking well, and has been climbing up and down stairs for ages. We always go with him, but he's really confident and has never stumbled.

My friend's DS is 12 months. He's crawling but not walking, and not so confident going down stairs, but is fine with going up stairs.

On Saturday I was looking after my friend's DS for a couple of hours, and needed to go upstairs. I was carrying friend's DS, and when I opened the stairgate, my DS followed us and started climbing the stairs. Friend's DS then wanted to be put down to climb the stairs too, so I put him down and I walked up the stairs behind them both as they climbed up side by side. I had a folded babygro and a board book in one hand.

We have quite a narrow stairway and I felt confident that if they had stumbled I would have been able to stop them falling. However, DH came to the top of the stairs and was quite shocked - he said what I was doing was really dangerous and I should have taken them up one at a time.

Was I being unreasonable? I thought it was fine, but now I'm really questioning myself.

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Seona1973 · 04/04/2011 11:26

what you did sounds fine to me

SouthGoingZax · 04/04/2011 11:27

I have 18 mo DTs and they crawl up the stairs and down the stairs at the same time. Have been doing it for about a month.

If both confident crawlers, then fine.

Grabaspoon · 04/04/2011 11:28

How do you think mums of twins or more get them up the stairs :) DH is BU

squeakytoy · 04/04/2011 11:29

If they had been coming down the stairs it may have been a bit more risky, but if they were going up, and you were right behind them, then I dont see any problem at all.

TheVisitor · 04/04/2011 11:30

I used to chase my triplets up the stairs.

purepurple · 04/04/2011 11:30

YANBU

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nellyjane · 04/04/2011 11:32

Thank you!

See, that's what I thought, but DH said because I had something in my hand I wouldn't be able to hold them properly. But I'd just drop the stuff, wouldn't I?!

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BaronessBomburst · 04/04/2011 11:33

How does he think they were going to fall down the stairs with you in the way? Unless you have one of those open stairways with a sheer drop down one side, it sounds fine to me.

BertieBotts · 04/04/2011 11:35

That's fine as long as you know the stair capabilities of the other child - DS would have been fine but at 12 months they vary a lot. A friend's DS still needs a lot of supervision on the stairs at 2.5. He fell down the stairs at nursery because they didn't listen to her when she said he didn't concentrate.

SardineQueen · 04/04/2011 11:41

YANBU at all.

GelflinGirl · 04/04/2011 12:45

YANBU DH is though

poopnscoop · 04/04/2011 12:50

I do exactly this all the time with under 3s. Works like a gem. If they lose their footing I am there to stop the fall.

foxter · 04/04/2011 14:35

YANBU. Your DH is.

MorticiaAddams · 04/04/2011 23:10

YANBU. You were behind them in case they fell and they were fine. I had removed stairgates by that time as mine were fine on the stairs and I didn't see the point.

KickArseQueen · 04/04/2011 23:14

Yep your dh is being a loon, Stop doubting yourself! :)

cityangel · 04/04/2011 23:33

you're right... I would say however that in my personal experience of stairs and 2 under 3 everything is fine until it isn't. Ambulance hospital trip all fine in the end. We have a no toys on/ near the stairs/ no play on the stairs + rules that seem too much but will hopefully protect us from further accidents

fourunderfour · 04/04/2011 23:36

Um...I've got two sets of twins so this is daily life.

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