I used to be a really keen sailor, had a (very small) yacht down on the South coast. Then split up with XH, he kept the boat and I haven't been sailing since. I really miss it, but met DP (who gets sea sick on a boating lake) and had children, so happily traded sailing for the joys of family life.
I've been invited to a regatta next Sunday. All things being equal I'd love to go. But I wondered whether it was a bit selfish to take the whole day for myself?
Pertinent facts are:
- it will be the first time that I've left DP alone with both DCs for more than an hour. I can see that DP's nervous about it, although he says he'll be fine. He doesn't like putting up the buggy or buckling the DCs into their car seats
- I'll need to leave the house at 6AM, and won't be back until 7:30 PM, so won't see the DCs at all. (DS1 is 3.5 years; DS2 is 11 months)
- DP and I both work FT, so it would take up a whole 50% of the time we have together as a family next weekend. DP sometimes (once a month, maybe) goes out with the boys at the weekend and stays away overnight, but he's invariably back by lunchtime the next day and without a hangover so we can still do stuff together.
- I'm 17 weeks pregnant. My midwife says it would be fine to go, but DP is worried about the baby.
What do you think? Should I go?