After many many years, stepson has finally begun to do some tasks around the house. This has never been an issue as he had previously stayed every weekend and we didnt really expect him to be involved in household stuff so much (probably wrong thing to do) but since the beginning of the year, has been staying a good 5-6 days a week.
Anyway, given it was mother's day yesterday, husband asked stepson to do the washing up. He did this happily. I left it on the drainer overnight, not something I'd usually do but it was my "day off". I went to clear up this morning and I had to do it all again....the worst washing up job he has ever done to the point where the lasagne was still caked onto some of the plates.
It isnt a "one off", he generally does a sloppy job if he does the washing up (rarely) and I wouldnt say anything as im just happy he helped...but this has been by far the worst.
So, the problem is/my options are....just be grateful, be glad he is being involved in the house, dont say anything and then wash up again? , point out what a bad job he did (in a better way than expressed here) and risk upsetting him and appearing ungrateful? or just do it myself from now on?
This applies across the whole family I guess ( you could replace stepson with husband in many cases) and in many situations...what do you do? is it pandering to "practiced uselessness"?