Wedding invitation ettiquette

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My family and I (me, hubbie and 2 young children) have been invited to my cousin's second wedding. I really wanted to go but it is across the other side of the country and the cost of getting there and staying in a hotel for 2 nights ruled it out so we have just declined - had to make a decision quickly by the deadline.

However, I have since found a cheap rail ticket which didn't appear to be available before when I checked before and if I go just by myself it should be affordable.

I know I have already just declined but do you think I could change my mind (wedding is 3 and a half weeks away) or is that just bad form?

Well, if it were my wedding, I would be very happy you could make it, no problem.

I would give them a ring and explain. It could be that it is too late as they have already booked (if it is a sit down meal), but then again there could have been other late cancellations.

Dont just turn up though, but I am sure they will be glad you can make it afterall, and will be more than happy for you to go if you ring and let them know.

Just give them a call and explain what's happened. I'm sure that if they have the space and haven't finalised the numbers with caterers (if they're using them!) then they'll be happy to have you!

I used to be in the wedding invite industry.

I would give them a ring and tell them you've found a way you can make their wedding, is there any way it's not too late? They have probably made all arrangements already, but venues are generally fine with adding a couple more seats if there's space.

I'd phone or email your aunt/cousin/whoever's organising. If it were the day before the seating plans etc might be printed but 3.5 weeks is still plenty of time for such things.

If it were my wedding I'd be delighted if a cousin/friend could suddenly come!

I think 3 1/2 weeks is adequate notice, give them a ring! They wanted you to come so they will be pleased you can make it now.