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to be wound up by brother

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mrsgogo · 03/04/2011 23:29

I just dont know how to feel about my brothers behaviour I go from feeling sad and sorry for him to furious.

Sorry this is a bit long.

In feb I asked my brother to baby sit from my 3 year old one afternoon for me. (only the 3rd time ever I have asked him). When I asked him he was not keen wanting to bring his dog with him and going on about his keep fit arrangements. The dog is a mastif / pit bull type dog although a nice natured dog I really dont like the dog around the kids, especially if I am not there. So anyway he agreed to leave the dog at home.

Anyway on the day the nursery said they had a space so could keep son for the afternoon. So I called brother and said I didnt need him now as nursery could take him. My brother went mad ranting at me that I need to stick to arrangements. I said I was sorry I thought he would be pleased as he had not seemed to keen in the first place. He just started ranting about how he had missed yoga and I'd messed up his whole day. I got drawn into an argument.

Anyway not spoke to him or seen him since (which is not that unusual). I texted him to ask him round for a meal on sunday. Did not hear back so yesterday I text again and ask for a reply as he is veg so need to buy special food. He sends text saying he is still upset about argument. So I send him one saying lets not argue he is very welcome, kids would love to see him and our parents coming. Get now response and in supermarket so call him - he again starts ranting - saying I need to change my 'attitude' and I should stick to arrangemnts. I try to get I word in but cant so I very immaturely just say fuck off and hang up on him.

Not heard from him since and needless to say he did not come to lunch.

He is 37 and single and always had a tendency to make everything all about him.

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squeakytoy · 03/04/2011 23:33

He sounds utterly ridiculous and immature. Just leave him to sulk and dont let it bother you. And you were also right not to want his dog around your child too.

I am a dog lover, but no matter how good natured someone says their dog is, it can still be unpredictable with children it does not know well, especially young children.

YANBU.

FabbyChic · 03/04/2011 23:40

Wow he holds a grudge for this long? And for a really silly reason.

I'd leave him to stew in his own juices you have tried your best.

He come round eventually.

mrsgogo · 03/04/2011 23:41

Also I should mention on christmas day he was 3 hours late for christmas dinner. With no phone call - we tried to call him but mobile off.

We waited and waited and eventually ate our 'well done' dinner while worrying about him.

When he eventually arrives - he is late as hungover but I made no fuss just made up his dinner I was just glad he was ok as had been worried.

Yet he is now lecturing me on not sticking to arrangements.

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mrsgogo · 03/04/2011 23:46

Well in terms of the dog he did relunctantly agree to leave him at home - this seemed to part of the rant that he had had to walk the dog in the morning as thought he was minding nephew (and was not allowed to bring dog) in afternoon so he had missed his yoga class.

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