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LoveACuppaTea · 03/04/2011 19:41

I have been on mumsnet for a few months now, under a couple of different names (I'm sticking with this one now!) And cannot believe how high spirited all of you are.

DH and I have been TTC for 6 months now and as each month goes past, as each AF comes I am getting more and more depressed and wondering if it will ever happen for us. When my AF comes I stay in bed all day crying and can barely look at DH when he comes in but everyone here just somehow manages to pick themselves up and try again.

I am so desperate for a baby, I have even given up a career working in nurseries as I cannot bear to be around a child that is not mine. I'm a sh*t auntie too as my DN has recently turned 1 and I can't even stand holding him as it hurts too much.

All I'm trying to say is its good to know there's a place I can go to where people will understand. Thank you. Xx

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hairfullofsnakes · 03/04/2011 19:44

I send you loads of best wishes and good luck. Please don't despair, conceiving can take a goof while! Do come back and update us and if you need any tips or advice (I do some bf support too if you ever want any) then don't hesitate to message me and update us all!

Wishing you all the best x


StewieGriffinsMom · 03/04/2011 19:44

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nomoreheels · 03/04/2011 19:46

Hey, hope you get some good news soon. It took us 12 months TTC, including 3 months of nasty Clomid, but I am 31 wks now & hopefully all will continue to go well. Fingers crossed for you, I know how hard it is not to get a BFP cycle after cycle.

MN can be a brilliant place & there's certainly never a dull day, that's for sure! It is also excellent for pregnancy insomnia. :)


psiloveyou · 03/04/2011 19:48

Six months really isn't long but I'm sure that doesn't help when you want a baby so badly.
I don't really have any advice except try and enjoy life while you wait. (I am assuming there is no reason why conceiving will be an issue for you).

There is a TTC thread somewhere, I stumbled on by mistake once and was amazed at how supportive everyone was over there.

Will try and find to link.


TheGirlWhoIsBootilicious · 03/04/2011 19:50

LoveACuppa, My lovely (late) mum, would say, "Keep trying and enjoy the ride!" Wink


Optimism · 03/04/2011 20:00

We've been trying for two years. Yes, it is hard, really hard. And yes there have been tears along the way but we can't just waste our lives away waiting and being miserable. I have a wonderful husband who makes me really happy and I am lucky in so many ways. I am surrounded by dear friends and family with new babies and I can't not be happy for them. I do believe it will be my turn (and I'm sure yours) eventually and in the meantime I am going to get on with my life. Try to stay positive. x


mousesma · 03/04/2011 20:06

It took us 2 and half years to conceive DD, made all the more frustrating because there was nothing physically wrong with either of us.
6 months is really no time at all, don't give up hope.


griphook · 03/04/2011 20:10

Hey, it took us ages to conceive my Ds, well, over 2 years of trying. I know how hard it is when every where you look people and children and you don't. i used to be unbearable if anyone every told me they were pregnant. keep at it, it will happen. x


LoveACuppaTea · 03/04/2011 20:28

Thanks everyone, you're all so nice. DH doesn't even let me watch tv shows that have newborns or pregnant people in them as I start crying. I know its a completely selfish thing but I just WANT a baby now :( I'm sorry, I'm just really stressed out today with stuff - some days are just so much harder than others. Thanks. Sorry again.

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charmum3 · 03/04/2011 20:43

loveacuppatea, i feel for you, sending you a glass of wine,Wine and hugs don't give up hope, and let us know how ur getting onxx


LoveACuppaTea · 03/04/2011 20:48

Thanks charmum3. I'm sure you'll find me in the conception forum!

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MissPenteuth · 03/04/2011 20:49

It's not selfish at all, it's a perfectly natural thing to want a baby. It took DH and I about 7 months to conceive and in retrospect it doesn't seem like any time at all, but it felt like an age at the time. Fingers crossed it happens for you soon x


Newgolddream · 03/04/2011 20:53

As people have said 6 months is nothing but will feel like it when its something you desperately want. I remember it taking about 18 months to conceive DS2 and it felt like the end of the world. Join us on the conception boards - there are lots of threads, it can look a bit confusing at first but Im on the charters thread - basically charting my fertility signs so I know Im doing the deed around ovualtion each month - no guarantee of success of course but at 40 Ive got to max my chances!!


SofaSal · 03/04/2011 20:55

Do you post on the conception threads? They are lovely over there, at the moment there is a thread for those trying for 6+ months if you haven't found it already.

TTC for years was one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with, I'm not surprised that you are finding it hard. I found it soul-sapping. In the time we were trying friends met, married and had babies - some had two (one couple even managed three) before we even got a +ve pg test result.
It was agony. Worse of all was my sister getting pg, like you I could barely hold her baby without crying and was a crap, crap, crap aunt and sister for a while.

But, we managed to get pg and those years have melted away now, I'm forever counting my blessings.

I just wanted to tell you that although it feels like you are alone in your pain, you aren't. And you will cope, honestly, you will.


BelleDameSansMerci · 03/04/2011 20:58

Hope you (and everyone on here TTC) has some wonderful news to share very soon.

Your posts are heartbreaking. I truly hope you get the child you long for.


pointythings · 03/04/2011 21:02

DD1 took 7 months to conceive, and it did feel like forever. All around me friends and colleagues were getting PG just like that, or so it seemed (of course I didn't have a clue that one of them had been trying for 2+ years!).

We got there in the end and then weridly enough DD2 happened first time out - we just don't know nearly enough about how fertility works, I guess.

Am sending you serious baby vibes, I know what it's like.


LoveACuppaTea · 05/04/2011 12:19

Hi everyone thanks for your messages. I was having such a bad day on Sunday. Due AF today or the next few days but I defo feel like its coming :( Good luck to everyone xxx

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