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AIBU?

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to want DH to come home?

16 replies

takingchances · 03/04/2011 17:22

I don't know if I am being a self-pitying miserable sod or if I am fully justified in wanting DH to come home.
Context: I had an operation last Monday and am still stuck at home. I am up and dressed and moving about the house fine but yesterday ventured out to the shops for the first time with my sis and had to sit down on a park bench after 10 mins and go back home again. (Came over all wobbly and pathetic).

Today DH had a snooker tournament which he was mega-excited about. Snooker was at 11 so he left home at 10 and I said, "will you be back for lunch?". He says probably no because snooker takes forever. I said grand, I'll look after myself but you won't be gone all day will you? And he said, no I'll be back in the afternoon.

He's still not home. I am so lonely and bored. I would like to go for a short walk outside but not on my own after yesterday's park bench debacle. I have texted him saying "Please can you come back soon, I feel like a prisoner".

AIBU to want him to come back? Or should I be glad that he's off out enjoying himself and just keep myself entertained?

Disclaimer: DH is a good husband and worked from home all week so he could make me cups of tea while I shouted orders from bed. Please don't flame him.

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worraliberty · 03/04/2011 17:24

Having read your disclaimer I'd say YABU sorry.

I know it's not nice for you, but it's not nice for him either and he probably needs a break.

worraliberty · 03/04/2011 17:25

Oh...'break'...pardon the pun Blush

louloudia · 03/04/2011 17:27

little bit unreasonable to want him home cos you are bored

HaggisNeepsnTatties · 03/04/2011 17:27

You say that he is a good husband so yes YABU....Smile

Zellys · 03/04/2011 17:28

YANBU but YHINBU to want to go out for the day.

I'm housebound at the moment too - just out of hospital and waiting for more surgery on the 8th and will then be even more housebound. Dh has had to take the DCs to/from school as when I tried last week I did the same wobbly/faint thing and DS1 had to practically carry me home.

DH needs time to himself anyway and I've been on my own (DCs at my parents), for a fair few days. I've gotten into boxsets/films I 'always meant to watch'. On S2 of the tudors and have also spent a small fortune on kindle books and retail therapy at a remove (have bought lots of pretty glasses from John Lewis).

It is a bit shit but your DH will be feeling stir-crazy too and it can be hard to have empathy in that situation.

Could your Dsis come back, or is there someone else you could call on to be your excursion buddy?

takingchances · 03/04/2011 17:32

oooh Zellys what does YHINBU mean?
Good plan with the boxsets. I wish I had thought of that but I really thought I'd be totally fine by now, out and about doing normal stuff. *Sigh.

Best of luck for your next op, I hope everything goes really well for you.

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Groovee · 03/04/2011 17:32

My dh took ds to his footie match and then the local teams footie derby 2 days after I got my gall bladder out. I was ok about it until I realised he'd gone out having forgotten to make me the sandwich I'd asked to be made for lunch. I had poor dd searching the fridge for my sandwich which wasn't there.

My inlaws are just round the corner and brought me a sandwich and took dd out.

When I had a minor op in the february holiday I just had to get on with looking after a sick child. I'd be taking myself back to bed and enjoying the peace.

FabbyChic · 03/04/2011 17:33

Snooker tournaments take hours, not just an hour, easily 6! My childrens father used to play in them.

ENormaSnob · 03/04/2011 17:33

Yabu

Tuggy · 03/04/2011 17:35

I guess YHINBU is your husband is not...etc

Zellys · 03/04/2011 17:35

YHINBU = Your Husband Is Not Being Unreasonable, trying to coin an acronym there ;)

I totally hear you on the recovery taking longer than you thought. Youtube has lots of episodes of stuff (in installments usually), if you need entertaining right now.

Thanks a lot, I'm hoping that it'll be the last time I'm housebound for a long time. DS3 has chickenpox so it's not been the peace and quiet I was expecting! Lots of sympathy from me, it sucks so much especially if you're used to being active.

takingchances · 03/04/2011 17:37

Ah ha. I get you now! Brain has turned to mush.

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flyingspaghettimonster · 03/04/2011 17:38

I think it is unreasonable, but justified to feel like that. I often feel the same, but things are how they are, and I see my husband's hobby of playing toy soldiers at the games club as far better than wanting to go to the pub each week drinking like other guys we know. Just watch something on you tube or play online, ebay or something. Be glad he has been looking after you so well... he sounds like a good bloke who just lost track of time.

anonymosity · 03/04/2011 17:40

YABU. Leave him alone for the day.

ChippingInMistressSteamMop · 03/04/2011 17:42

YABU - friends? family? DVD's? He isn't your personal entertainment slave you know Grin

takingchances · 03/04/2011 17:43

OK OK I am hearing you. Have texted him saying that I am being unreasonable wanting him to come home, not to worry about me and to have a lovely time.

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