To not repremand my four year old for lying.

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She is playing outside with friend (5) and sister (7).
Came in calling MUM MUM which I ignored as expect them to find me not me go to them.
Next thing after a potter in the bathroom she goes back out very carefully saying "Mum says yes"
Must have been sent to ask for water and decided to help herself.
Am pleased to not have been bothered and that she got it herself but feel the lying is not good. ( she is an accomplished lier and has been since she was two)
Oh but the peace is good (baby asleep) even worth the clean up later.

adult

because if you say you don't, then you are....lying!

BooyHoo - what nonsense. Everyone lies.

4 Year olds with vivid imaginations have very blurred boundaries between fantasy and relaisty and alot of 'lying' is simply the 'imaginary' truth.

Although a planned deception may be differnt.

Since you don't know what she was actually talking about, and fetching some water doesn't sound like anythig anyone would orbid, I'm not sure what the issue is.

of course everyone lies but why on earth would anyone want to let their dcs think it's ok?

no i dont have adult children, but funnily enough i do happen to be an adult.

Sometimes it is OK to lie and sometimes it is not. I guess it is all down to moral ethics and we all have our own take on that.

I don't advocate lying but agree that a child comes to the parent not yells from another place. My DS usually yells. Once he came and said 'didn't you here me calling you'. I said 'yes didn't you here me answer?'. DS 'no', me 'well if you were in the same room as me you would have'.

Usually if I feel the need in situations lke the OP's I would investigate and stop it if they have not asked permission. But (providing it was something like water etc) I would make it clear if they'd have asked then they could have done it - but as they didn't - game over

OP YANBU to pick your battles.