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AIBU?

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Quick AIBU....not complex....not full-on. Need to know in order to win argument!

27 replies

Skinit · 01/04/2011 22:11

Basically I was cooking a small pan of rice. Boiled rice. Kids had eaten their tea but DD2 (aged3) didn't eat much as it was a bit strong...so an hour later she asked for rice. (she likes it plain)

Sooooo....I pop it on...little bit of cold water, lid on...bring to the boil and simmer! I check on it and it's almost done.

The I see DH interfering looking in my pan....he always says I cook rice badly. He lifts the lid to look, turns off my gas ring and removes it from the ring to another area of the stove...on another ring basically. Then he puts lid back on.

Literally a minute later I look and rice is cooked...appears to have cooked in it's own heat...you know how it does in the last minute or so when there is barely any moisture left in the pan?

SO I feed DD and carry on my business.

Then I smell burning. It's the pan handle.

DH had not only taken it off the heat but had simply CHANGED the ring and put it on a smaller one with a VERY small flame.

He then said "Look! You left the handle sticking over the flame!"

I reckon it was HIS fault for interfering in my pan of rice! He says I should have known that he had turned the gas on the small ring to finish the rice off!

WHY??? WHY? should I have known that?? WHY did he move it in the first place!

AIBU to blame him?

Sorry...long thread for pathetic thing. Blush

OP posts:
EricNorthmansMistress · 01/04/2011 22:13

I don't understand. But he is BU - once he interfered he became responsible.

Sn0wflake · 01/04/2011 22:13

It was just a mistake....that you both contributed to. I don't think you should be fighting about the small stuff. It really isn't worth it is it?

madhattershouse · 01/04/2011 22:15

Too many cooks spoil the broth..he should have left it alone, but you should have checked everything was switched off!!

NimpyWindowmash · 01/04/2011 22:16

YANBU - once he interfered, he was responsible, at least partly.
By the way, get a rice cooker, they're great

Skinit · 01/04/2011 22:16

Oh we're not really fighting..more in a jokey way...but I still want him to admit he was wrong to A interfere and B to admit the burned handle was his fault!

OP posts:
Bringonthegoat · 01/04/2011 22:16

YA both BU - he should have left alone or taken over completely, faffing is unhelpful at best, you should have checked gas as the last one out there for safety sake.

SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 01/04/2011 22:17

He is BU. He moved it. I assumed you meant he moved it off the heat to finish it off, not moved it to smaller heat

because your ring was too big for the pan.

Skinit · 01/04/2011 22:17

Nimpy I haven't bloody room for any more gadgets!

So far I see am am NOT BU!

OP posts:
chocadoodle · 01/04/2011 22:17

YANBU he interfered so is responsible for burnt pan handle.

Perfect way to cook rice? Boil for 5 mins, pour into colander and cover with foil. Boil kettle pouring small amount of boiling water back into saucepan and place on very low heat. Place colander on top of saucepan for 10 mins. Perfect steamed rice.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 01/04/2011 22:17

He interfered without asking.

He IBU

Skinit · 01/04/2011 22:18

Squirted....that's right...he moved it to a smaller ring because he often feels I use the wrong pan on the wrong ring!

Angry
OP posts:
thisisyesterday · 01/04/2011 22:18

yabu. you dealt with it last, you should have made sure the cooker was off

twinkytonk · 01/04/2011 22:19

He shouldn't have interfered he is BU.

I hate it when dp interferes helps when I am cooking.

Skinit · 01/04/2011 22:21

To clarify.

I put the pan to cook on a middling ring

he moved it to a smaller one when it was almost done

I assumed he had done this so it could finish off in it's own heat

But no. It was just his PEDANCY!

OP posts:
AgentZigzag · 01/04/2011 22:21

'Wrong pan on the wrong ring'

Grin control freak, leave him Grin

AgentZigzag · 01/04/2011 22:22

When you're doing bacon does he make you turn the grill off while you turn it over?

Skinit · 01/04/2011 22:22
Grin

Do you think he's toxic too AgentZ?

And passive agressive?

OP posts:
Bringonthegoat · 01/04/2011 22:31

Leave the twat

BanalChelping · 01/04/2011 22:49

I looked on Wikipedia and it said that interfering with rice is abusive behaviour. You have to leave him right now for the sake of your children Grin

Skinit · 01/04/2011 23:06

Thank you Banal...I thought I was going mad for a moment! HOW did I get to a place where I thought it was ok to interfere in my rice??

Grin

I'm going to put on a big pot of Bassamati and DARE him to lift that lid! The worm has turned!

OP posts:
SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 01/04/2011 23:13

Make sure you put it in a little pan on a big ring, so the flames go up the sides. Grin

AgentZigzag · 01/04/2011 23:17

Has he not admitted his guilt yet Skinit? Hmm

Skinit · 01/04/2011 23:22

No AgentZ. He will not!

Squirted...I will be sure to do that...plus I will overfill it. Grin

OP posts:
AgentZigzag · 01/04/2011 23:25

Angry The cheek of the man.

Does he know MN has spoken and he must abide by the ruling?

heliumballoons · 01/04/2011 23:26

Just PMSL @ this thread. Grin