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AIBU?

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To think that people are actually sick sometimes

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slugz · 01/04/2011 22:10

Dd1 has gone to bed complaining that she feels like she's going to be sick. Dh is now huffing that the kids are always ill, and it's my fault for mollycoddling and putting into their heads that they're going to be ill, by (very occasionally) asking if they're ok 'cause they look a bit off colour.

To put this in context dd1 is 9 and has not had a day off of school since she was 4 when she was off for a week with a nasty virus. Dd2 has only ever missed nursery when she had chicken pox and 1 d&v episode and ds averages 1-2 days off a year.
This is more specifically about vomiting though, because dh has never ever, in his entire life vomited. But rather than being thankful for this just acts aghast that the rest of us must have my crap genes because we have vomited occasionally and it must be due to modern living because no-one ever vomited when he was a kid.

Please tell dh that this is quite a normal level of sickness within a family.

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TONKINS · 01/04/2011 22:11

DH this is quite a normal level of sickness within a family.

Done it!

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slugz · 01/04/2011 22:12

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BluddyMoFo · 01/04/2011 22:12

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HuwEdwards · 01/04/2011 22:12

I wouldn't credit his ill-informed views with a debate about it. How bizarre his views are!

Mahraih · 01/04/2011 22:13

Quite normal. Very good health levels.

Meglet · 01/04/2011 22:14

Yanbu.

I think it's very weird that he has never vomited . Surely his plumbing isn't right?

Your dc's sound normal.

NettoSuperstar · 01/04/2011 22:16

Is it possible that he's emetophobic?

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slugz · 01/04/2011 22:18

I know I'm so jealous, I had hyperemesis in 2 of my pregnancies, so although we're a healthy bunch mainly, I have had more than my fair share of throwing up.

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slugz · 01/04/2011 22:19

He's no scared of it, and will clean it up no problem, he just thinks it's massively unusual, and for someone to vomit, maybe once a year, must mean they're desperately unwell.

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HumphreyCobbler · 01/04/2011 22:21

he is very lucky not to vomit

we have had more than our fair share of vomiting bugs over the last few years

how strange that he feels morally superior though,

MoChan · 01/04/2011 22:22

Crikey, I thought you were going to list a few more incidents of sickness than that. There's practically a bug a week at my house. Well, maybe not quite. But it certainly feels that way in the winter.

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slugz · 01/04/2011 22:23

Not morally, just genetically.
Even though that makes no sense, it makes me feel crap that he feels like I've passed crap genes to the kids, and am making them suffer. Even though I haven't. I just don't like him thinking it.

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slugz · 01/04/2011 22:24

Yes, I think that we actually have extremely low sickness in this house (when I'm not pregnant, that is)

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Jemma1111 · 01/04/2011 22:25

Your dh thinks its unusual to vomit?

He needs to know its unusual to never vomit!

MoChan · 01/04/2011 22:25

You should tell him that it's CREAKING GATES that hang longest on their hinges.

Or some such unproven nonsense.

FWIW, I would be envious if we had as little sickness as your family appear to have.

chunkyjojo · 01/04/2011 22:26

His views are quite wierd. Mind you my Dad was always a bit odd about anyone being ill, he basically just denied that there was anything wrong with any of us and off to school you go sort of thing. To this day I feel guilty and nervous when I'm sat in the doctors waiting room, almost like I'm faking it!

SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 01/04/2011 22:28

I cannot honestly believe an adult has never ever vomited. Your family sounds normal, verging on the lucky not to catch every bug going! It is normal bodily function to deal with nasties.

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slugz · 01/04/2011 22:33

He honestly doesn't, if there's something going around he might get a slightly grumbly belly, but that's it.
He can't remember ever being sick as a child, but his parents died when he was young so it's possible he could have done while very young.

He has been sick, but not due to illness but drink. He was so shocked by this occurance that he actually went to the doctors (aged 18) complaining there must be something very wrong with him because he drank 8 pints of lager and then threw up. I'd love to have seen the docs face. He's never been sick since.

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Fatimalovesbread · 01/04/2011 22:34

God I vomit about once a month, I have a sensitive stomach that doesn't always like food or alcohol. And then there's when I'm propely poorly.

He has NEVER been sick, that's wierd!

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 01/04/2011 22:37

I have met people like him from time to time. I usually claim that I vomit frequently... if startled, for instance. And watch them struggling with themselves not to shout 'Boo!' to see if I'm lying.

SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 01/04/2011 23:03

Slug, I nearly posted a comment about an adult male not even vomiting through drink but refrained! At least he knows he can vomit, if he needed too! Lucky him in that case then. No problems with holidays in Egypt for him.

SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 01/04/2011 23:04

Sorry no offence. iPad got your name wrong, Slugz.

hmc · 01/04/2011 23:05

Am sure your dh is lovely but if he has never vomited he is a bit of a freak medical marvel!

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/04/2011 23:07

Your other half sounds like an arse hole. My DH has never vomited as long as we've been together (14 years) - I have no idea why he seems to have such a cast iron stomach but he does. Yet he never questions why the kids have this vomiting bug, or that fever-induced vomting problem.

zipzap · 01/04/2011 23:14

When I was little I was only sick once until I was in my mid twenties (ok there were a couple of times at uni but they were booze inflicted so don't count) - others around me would get sick bugs but I was always fine.

then I got some sort of gastric flu and was badly sick (can remember ringing my mum wanting some comforting words down the phone, told her i was sick and all she could say was that I didn't sound like I had a cold as I was forever catching them, it just didn't occur to her that I would be sick sick as I never was)

unfortunately I now get sick bugs as easily as the next person and I still get really nasty coughs and colds too (was hoping that they would go if something inside me had changed to make me susceptible to sickness but alas no)

I do also think that it does seem that d&v bugs are much more prevalent than they were 20-30-40 years ago. and I reckon a chunk of that is down to the fact that there are lots more people crammed into the same spaces than there used to be (bigger schools with more open plan stuff and more crowded classes, open plan offices, bigger supermarkets with more handles on trolleys to pick up bugs from, etc), lower personal responsibility (people happy to go out when they have bugs or very soon after having when they will still be contagious), work pressures to go in even when sick and increased use of anti bacterial handwashes etc and less tolerance of ordinary everyday dirt.

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