mothers day annoyance

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I am not that bothered about mother's day (we usually go out for a nice lunch but not a big deal), but nevertheless this has annoyed me slightly.

DH has arranged to take his mother out to an event for Sunday lunch. It relates to a hobby they both enjoy. This is very nice of him and I do not mind that he will not be with me (I am not his mother). I think he did not in fact realise it was mothers day when he booked but it is a nice coincidence.

However, when I pointed out it is mother's day, I had assumed he would book somewhere for me and the DC and FIL to go out for lunch (he did give me the impression he would be doing this). DC are a bit young to actually arrange anything and it never occurred to me that I would need to organise something myself. So now I have to entertain the DC and his father, which will probably involve me cooking for everyone as I suspect I will struggle to get a nice restaurant now.

This has annoyed me. Which I appreciate is a bit inconsistent with saying I am not that bothered about mother's day (and therefore unreasonable). Maybe becuase I think the kids will expect to do something nice with me (because they usually do and granny will be getting a treat, and daddy will be having a nice time too thank you very much).

So please try to snap me out of my annoyance by suggesting something nice we could do (London) which will not requre a booking.

BTW is it mother's day or mothers' day?

As someone who genuinely really isn't bothered about Mother's Day, I think you sure as hell sound as though you really are.

Imo Mother's Day is all about kids showing appreciation for their Mums. Your kids will probably make you a card.

When they grow up, they can arrange a meal or whatever it is you want.

There's nothing worse than a restaurant on mother's day. Lucky break

It's Mothering Sunday . You married a Mummy's boy. You will now have to turn your DCs into Mummy's children to make it up to yourself.

I usually travel to visit my Mum on Mothering Sunday and don't actually do anything for me. My DSs usually organise something for me when I get home, which is nice. This year, I am waiting until next weekend when my DS2 comes home from Uni and then we will do something. I have never expected my DH to do anything for me on Mothering Sunday - I'm not his Mum!

The children will prob make me cards which is lovely, but I don't expect DH to do anything for me in particular. I'm not his mum.

Why do you have to entertain FIL?? Arrange for DH to take YOU out alone....and have a little day out with the DC in the day.

I would be peeved too.

Agree that nothing worse than lunch out on Mothers Day - hyped up prices and places full of families pretending to be happy

My Mum sadly passed away four years ago so dont make an issue out of it even though I am a mum myself.

A few years ago I said to DH that I didn't want any thing for Mothers day _ ijust wanted a day out in London by myself at some ppint - so he took a week day off work and I went off for a day out !

MrsTerryPratchett Fri 01-Apr-11 17:59:11
It's Mothering Sunday . You married a Mummy's boy. You will now have to turn your DCs into Mummy's children to make it up to yourself.

He he. Love it.

When did Mothers Day become such big consumerism? When I was a child I would make my Mum a card and pick her some flowers out of the garden. Nowadays people expect meals out, gifts, flowers, cards, chocolates, so much stuff, its not necessary and is wasteful.

I'd be inclined to send your DC out with your FIL for the day essential grandparent/children bonding while you get to sit back and relax...maybe even book in for a treatment?

So MIL and FIL live about 4 hours drive away. DH has invited MIL out for lunch (in part so he can indulge a hobby), but to make it worth the journey both MIL and FIL will come up and spend a few days with us. Hence, DH taking MIL out means I have to entertain FIL. If we were doing nothing at all for mothers day I would be abolsutely fine with that, but it kind of feels weird that, on mothers day, he is going on a jolly and I am having extra effort.

But as explained at the outset, I accept I am unreasonable and really what I want is suggestions of nice things for me and FIL and DC to do in London on Sunday (which dont require a booking).

Just bung a chicken in the over with some new potatoes and salad. Very easy.

I really wouldn't be worrying about it, you aren't DH's mum. When your kids are older they can do something more appropriate (now it is cards, later it might be restaurants etc.)

But then don't ask me, I don't give a damn and have ASKED DH to ensure nothing is done...

go to a theme park have a great day and make sure you use dh credit card?

Bugger off out and have your nails done! Can FIL babysit? Sorry but I think you're getting swizzed here. I'd not be happy at all!

Tell him that as he's going out and you'll be doing the usual then you'll expect your Mothers Day next Sunday.

How about park and yummy coffee shop if nice day, or send fil and dc's to kids club cinema while you chill if wet? M and s have food for 4 for £15 if you want yummy without cooking?

Might go for the m &s food or since the weather looks nice, a decent picnic and bottle of wine on hampstead Heath. Think what is slightly annoying me is that he is getting brownie points for being good son when it is totally reliant on my cooperation and he did not check with me first. So I can't even just chill with the kids ( i work full time) but have to be in host mode (although FIL is lovely to be fair).

Maybe it is not even a mothers day thing. The same points would apply if he had organised his outIng with his mum next weekend without checking, it is just the fact it is mothers day is making me think about it about more.

and to be fair i do think it is sweet he has organised a nice treat for his mum, just might have liked him to ask me in advance.

the zoo??
how old are your dcs? cinema?

Stear clear of going out on mothers day.It really is a Chav thing to do.