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to not give a shit about Mother's Day?

64 replies

GetOrfMoiLand · 01/04/2011 13:55

Apols. if there have been loads of threads similar.

I can't be arsed with it. Yes it is all very nice but if DD forgets to get me a card, I wouldn't care.

I don't want breakfast in bed either.

I think it is a daft concept tbh. Say thanks to me every day, not just save it all up for one day a year and buy me some rancid daffs.

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 01/04/2011 14:42

I fecking hate mothers day.

Hate it hate it hate it hate it HATE it.

EllAEllO · 01/04/2011 14:49

Sorry Lunatic. Sad

GetOrf, YANBU!
DS made me a card at nursery, which was lovely (he ate the biscuit he made, same as valentines day)
but I don't want flowers, or chocolates- I would really, really like DD (12) to tidy her disgusting room for the occasion though! Grin

teenma · 01/04/2011 14:58

I couldnt give a shite either but its made A LOT worse by the fact I am EXPECTED to pander to my mother AND mother-in-law who seem oblivious to the fact I am a mother too. D fucking H couldnt be bothered. The kids are sweet tho'

Original poster
GetOrfMoiLand · 01/04/2011 15:54

It must be the most hideous day if you have lost a child Sad

Inescapable as well. It must be torture for you, I am so sorry.

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GetOrfMoiLand · 01/04/2011 15:55

My mother and I don't speak either, which makes it doubly worse.

Just a job lot of guilt and self loathing and remorse.

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Honeybee79 · 01/04/2011 16:01

YANBU. Totally agree. Load of shite. And I know a good few people who find it extremely hard for various reasons, including a close friend whose son was still born 7 months ago Sad Sad.

SilverScarf · 01/04/2011 17:16

I agree it's a double edged sword if you don't have your mother with you/don't have contact or have lost a DC.

My dd passed away in March and mothers day was shortly after . It was an awful day. (2006)

This Sunday I'll be expecting a lie in and a sticky breakfast with DS (3) and DD (2) and making the most of it.

sweetgilly · 01/04/2011 17:24

GetOrfMoiLand

With that attitude, I very much feel sorry for your Mother.

ENormaSnob · 01/04/2011 17:29

Yanbu

sweetgilly, I presume you know fuck all about the ops mother so maybe best to stfu.

SilverScarf · 01/04/2011 17:43

That's totally uncalled for sweetgilly.

MittzyBittzyTeenyWeeny · 01/04/2011 17:51

I hate it. Just another bloody day, waste of money.

I can't give my Mum what she needs and so it is just a 'token'.

The kids have never bothered apart from what school did and their dad wasn't the type to organise anything. However this year he is colluding with them and turned up tonight to do something secretively. Hmm ( IF it mattered, you're several years too late )

I am buying the kids Hamsters tomorrow and will be on my own most of Mums day.

A card and then the day spent trying to diffuse bickering is somewhat NOT the point.

YANBU GetOrf. In fact I hate any 'special day' and would gladly bugger off to a retreat and let everyone else celebrate.

MittzyBittzyTeenyWeeny · 01/04/2011 17:52

Sad Lunatic. And Mr and Mrs Edgar. How sadly painful.

boohoohoo · 01/04/2011 17:55

Can I come in from a different angle, I lost both my parents when I was a teenager, I have a bag if personal belongings which have been kept in storage as I've never been able to face looking in them. Anyway we are moving the storage and was going through things last week when I found the bag and decided to look through it. I had a couple of hours remembering, smiling and crying at the contents (actually nearly broke my heart- again) however amongst the photos and letters was a pile of mothers day cards which I had made my mother and she had kept. It was wonderful. My dcs have always made me cards (the eldest is now sixteen!) I have also kept them. I hope one day my dd might find them when I'm gone and it will give her the same joy.

SardineQueen · 01/04/2011 17:56

I thought that mothering sunday was a pretty old tradition, rather than something that had been made up by clintons?

I always get something for my mum. Not fussed for me though TBH. Until I had children myself though I didn't realise how hard it is being a parent especially to young children and she did the whole SAHM thing for years. I know we drove her up the wall so I do appreciate it and mean it when I get her something for mothers day.

sweetgilly · 01/04/2011 18:05

ENormaSnob Fri 01-Apr-11 17:29:05
Yanbu

sweetgilly, I presume you know fuck all about the ops mother so maybe best to stfu.

YAWN. I think the OP has told me all I need to know, don't you. Not knowing her Mother does not stop me from feeling sorry for her.

Have a nice day now.

sweetgilly · 01/04/2011 18:07

SilverScarf

Don't you worry your pretty little head over it, Love.

noddyholder · 01/04/2011 18:08

It has never been my thing either until I was out with dp today tried onthese and he said I'll get them for mothers day! Now I love it Grin!

ENormaSnob · 01/04/2011 18:10

Ignorant and ill informed then aren't you gilly?

beesimo · 01/04/2011 18:12

For hundreds of years Mothering Sunday or Mothers Day used to be the first Sunday in April when all the girls/lads in domestic service or doing labouring on the big estates were allowed the day off to visit their Mams. You left your village to go and work for the aristocracy or nobs as we still call them and that was the one day of the year you knew you would definetly be allowed to leave your duties and go home to see your Mam. You weren't allowed to 'go off' at will

It was often the only time working class familes came together in the same place. Ordinary people were just white slaves really, we forget how lucky we are sometimes don't we?

pointydog · 01/04/2011 18:21

You seem angry at mother's day, orf. Let it all out.

pointydog · 01/04/2011 18:23

ah, I've caught up. Ok. SO maybe there are reasons.

sweetgilly · 01/04/2011 18:27

Erm...Let me think now. NOPE.

ratspeaker · 01/04/2011 18:43

My mum always said she didn't believe in Mothers Day " to make the card makers rich"
Didn't want presents or fuss
So we respected her wishes
and got her a book, or some chocolate gingers or another wee present about a week before as a non Mothers Day present

kazmus · 01/04/2011 18:44

unfortunately there are a whole lot of people on MN who will be facing mothers day having lost their children this year, and would give ANYTHING to have a crappy commercial card on Sunday morning from that one special person. Be grateful and love your kids as usual but never take any of it for granted. You really wouldnt want to be where we are.:(

sweetgilly · 01/04/2011 18:44

ratspeaker

I like that.

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