To be pissed of with DP re mothers day presents...

[Cher87]

for mothers day we have got both our mums a lovely professionlal pic of DS and bought a lovely frame from John Lewis. We have got them both a card from me and DP and a seperate one from DS.

DP has not long got home from work having popped to asda on his way and got some fowers for his mum for mothers day too! I am really pissed of as I feel there was no need to get her flowers too, AND they cost £15!! My mum wont be getting flowers aswell as we cannot afford another bunch! So on top of the £20 frame and the picture (they were bought as a package so couldnt say what that cost) and lunch I was planning to do for PIL on sunday he has gone and spent more on flowers!

Now I was planning on getting both my Nans a nice little token gift ie pot plant or something similar from all of us. But I am abit now as we arent rolling in it (I'm currently on MAT leave) and feel he has just spent away over half of the budget I was going to have for my Nans on flowers for his mum when we have already got her a nice present!!

Am I being an emotional tight arse???

If you have joint money yanbu.

If you have seperate or "spends" and he has used his own cash then I see no problem.

I can't see the issue really? But then it's the other way in our house, DH NEVER bothers with the presents, I do them, so I have bought both mums cards from us and the DC, a token takky tea towel that the girls wanted to get them and I got MIL a £20 gift voucher for a beauty shop she goes to and my mum a bottle of £35 perfume. Both mums have got presents they will be delighted with, yes I have spent more on my mum but she does a lot for us of late (she's having the girls for 10 days in the holidays so I can work extra hours).

DH wouldn't dream of questioning the amounts spent and likewise he sometimes gets his mum flowers/a bottle of wine (he sees her daily as parks his car at her house before work) and I would never question it.

If you're finding money tight then maybe you should have set a strict budget beforehand?

I think maybe he wanted to do something special for his mum because she no longer has a mum to spend her day with so comsequently mothers day might be slightly more poignant for her. I also think alot of DS are "mummies boys" and sometimes an extra bouqet can be a spur of the moment thing.

moogster1a

Pissed Off, not OF.

When money is tight in our house we buy picture frames from the Pound Shop, nice wooden ones !!

I don't think yabu, but then I speak as someone who thinks mothers day has become a commercial rip off! I love mothers day for the concept but disagree with the pressure to spend money. DH will get DC's to make me gifts and cards and I will have breakfast in bed, a choice of what we do that day and a lovely dinner cooked for me. The following week my Mum and MIL will get a lovely dinner cooked for them and maybe a little framed piccie of the kids.

So I think ya both bu for spending so much when a home made photo frame from the kids and maybe some flowers you had grown in the garden would have sufficed and shown more thought.........but maybe that's just me!

Did you and your Dh discuss the budget beforehand?

Everyone buy's flowers for their mum on Mother's day. Your dh may have felt weird turning up without flowers. I think it is nice that he is so thoughtful. Plenty of men don't bother at all.

I bought the picture frames from John lewis thinking that would be the only present we would buy otherwise I would have gone to asda/wilko or whatever and then I wouldnt have been so annoyed with the extra money.

On reflection I can see its a lovely thing for him to pick up some fowers for his mum and I certainly didnt mean/want to come across like I was annoyed that he wanted to buy his mum flowers! He is definatly a mummies boy! (as I think my DS will be!)

I guess I am just being an emotional tight arse!!

Why don't you split the flowers in half, rewraap and give them both a small bunch...........