Stop me saying something really bad to twat-ex.....

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Regular but name changed as this will probably out me.

Went onto FB tonight to send a private message to a friend. I don't do or like the public life announcements of private business.

So twat-ex has left a 2 messages on my wall - 1 asking for home address so he can invite me and DS to his wedding and another asking for my home and mobile telephone numbers.

He has had this information, he doesn't pay maintenence, lives abroad and hasn't seen DS for 4 years. He obviously doesn't care enough to keep hold of this information (he had it before he moved), or make the effort and has now aired our dirty laundry in public about the fact we don't communicate - and believed me I've tried.

I really want to tell him to fuck off. AIBU?

delete his comments then block him..

YANBU but it will piss him off more if you just ignore.

YANBU. At all.

But better to ignore, don't you think? Because that will probably drive him nuts :o

But of course if the wedding's in Barbados and he's offering us to attend with an All expenses paid holiday all of the above is void.

YANBU but I second Sassybeast - ignore him. :)

YANBU but you will annoy him better by ignoring the bollocks

Does he seriously think after 4 years we can play happy families? I have and always wanted DS to have a relationship with his father - he just can't be bothered. I really think he just wants to be able to say his son was at his wedding. It takes more than that to be a dad.

^^ Got it in one.
He is a twat
Ignore.

Or...and this is just to make you feel better and is not the sensible option of ignoring him......you could reply with

"The numbers and address are the same as they were X years ago when we last spoke. Congratulations on the wedding, who are you marrying? Is it Y [wrong name of bride, preferably a genuine ex!]?"

"PS the CSA still need your details, could you pass them on please?"

Pass Agg obviously, but a laugh all the same :o

Or one of us could post on your wall:
"Hey! Heard that smalldick was getting hitched. Feel sorry for the bride lololol" or something equally mature

Oh MadameO I love this response :) Seriously, delete and block.

I love Bogeyface's suggestion. Perhaps also ask for a current photo as your DS probably doesn't know what he looks like now having not seen him for four years ("is your hairline still receding?"). Yes, all that would be passive aggressive, but he started it.

However, the suggestions to ignore is probably the best way to go, as he's clearly playing the "I'm a family man" thing and it might be in your DS's best interests not to provoke him into trying to do it for real.

Oh he is sooo playing the "I am a family man" (for the benefit of his bride-to-be)

Tis' bullshit, of course it is.

Ignore him. Totally.

His bride to be is actually lovely. He's been with her for 5 years and I've known for ages they are getting marrried.Just don't get why he'd think I want to be there (or DS for that matter).

Love the pass agg suggestions ^^

Its almost like he's saying to DS - heres my new family, your still part of it, then he'll back off again. Not prepared to out my 6yo through that.

I dont blame you at all for not putting your son through that, he is being a selfish shit (your ex not your DS!)

He is playing it out in public so that he can say "Well I tried" when you and your DS dont go to the wedding. Incidentally I think he would be inviting you so that he he can go on about his son being there without actually having to look after him and make any effort, and at the same time show how wonderful he is by inviting his ex too.

He thinks that he is being clever by making the estrangement look like its your fault, but in reality anyone who knows you knows that it isnt your fault and anyone who doesnt know you doesnt matter. So you are right to do what is best for your son and you.

Good luck to his new wife, sounds like she will need it!