DP and I have half a dozen kids between us and circumstances mean that they all live with us. He works and I deal with the childcare on a daily basis - all the usual stuff, washing cooking cleaning etc etc. Thats fine by me but the SC can be demanding and hard to deal with at times due to their past when they were living with their mum.
so I get grief and stress day to day but treat all the children as "my" children -as in they all get treated the same and all have a fair amount of one to one time, love and attention etc.
But I'm KNACKERED. It's hard work and although I wouldn't change being a SAHM for anything (I love watching my children grow up) I feel like I need a day off now and then but i don't allow myself because housework piles up as you can imagine with 6 children.
So with Easter break coming up the chance has arisen for us to get away for a few days. We only have a small window because the SC are going to their mums for a few days. Originally Id said to DP that it might be an idea to visit his mate who lives more or less in the middle of nowhere and leads a very different life to us.
But the more I think about it i'm not too keen on taking the youngest (16 months) to somewhere that the guys will want to go camping, and hillwalking for hours. It wouldn't bother me so much if I was some place busy and had lots to do but as it stands I would be either struggling to deal with her in a pram - on rocky hills and sleeping in a tent,,, or stuck in a strangers house for hours on end having no real holiday at all.
I've said as much to DP and also the youngest is on a special diet (allergies) so I would need to plan and pack a lot more food than normal. I've said I'm not so keen on spending the whole time trying to entertain her someplace where there is not so much for her to do like there would be at home.
I've also said if he's got his heart set on it, then he should just go ahead and arrange it and take the older children and I'll keep youngest here. I'm quite content at the idea.
But he's had a strop about the whole thing because it was originally my idea.
Has said I need a holiday too and that its not fair if its only him that goes
I can't see how going to a strangers house, to spend a few days following his strict regime of hill walking, hiking, fishing etc (because thats how he plans DPs visits) - is going to be a holiday?
I would rather just stay at home with the baby and enjoy a bit less noise. But DP has gone right off on one with me about it.
Am I really being that unreasonable?!