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To wonder why men don't stay single for as long as women
scruffybird · 31/03/2011 16:53
It seems to me,( I could be way off with this one) that men who get divorced seems to be with their next partner within the week, where as divorced women seem to stay single for a long time. Why do you think this is? Have you noticed the same?
emsyj · 31/03/2011 16:56
Because the men were already dilly-dallying before the divorce?? 
Just kidding....
Maybe because they need someone to do their cooking/cleaning/washing so they fill the vacancy quick-sticks. Whereas women are glad to get a break from said cooking/cleaning/washing.
LindyHemming · 31/03/2011 17:00
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SpringchickenGoldBrass · 31/03/2011 17:23
Quite a lot of men want a woman to service them domestically. There is a longstanding cultural expectation that servicing men is what women are for. It's one of the reasons why women are constantly bombarded with messages to the effect that being single is terrible for women, because otherwise more of them would jump at the chance not to be some bloke's dishwasher-with-sexual-orifice.
Snorbs · 31/03/2011 17:28
"If you're a single man, there are lots of nice women, or women with low self-esteem and therefore lower standards out there."
And you know that how, exactly? Have you gone on many dates with women?
I've met a lot of female losers and weirdos. Eg the ones who spend the entire date getting pissed as knickers while spending the entire evening bitching about how every boyfriend they've ever had was a bastard, the ones whose prime interest is in finding out how much money you've got and whose interest then drops through the floor as soon as they suspect you're not minted, the ones who after a single date and a polite "Thanks but I don't think we're right for each other" will then bombard you with endless texts and calls... I could go on.
Sure, there are nice women out there but I don't think they're any easier to find than nice men.
LDNmummy · 31/03/2011 17:32
There are way more women in this world than men. So they sadly have more options. And because there are less men, women are much more likely to compete and will take what they can get. Recently saw a situation like this between friends with one seeing the others ex whom she had had a serious past with.
Olessaty · 31/03/2011 18:00
I dunno. I'm sure it differs down to the individuals.
When I finish a relationship, I go through a period of assessing what happened, how I feel about it emotionally, what might need to change next time to prevent it happening again, emotional growth and then I feel a need to get back to myself, remember myself and spend some time alone enjoying my own company. I don't like to carry baggage and I don't see the need to be in a relationship for the sake of it.
My experience is that the men I've broken up with like to use the next girl as a distraction to get over the last girl, to prove to themselves there's nothing wrong with them, and to get their end away to make themselves feel better. They have also played away during the relationship, so I assumed that they had a follow on already set up waiting.
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