I feel like walking out

[TheLadyEvenstar]

I love my DC very much. They are my world but I feel like I am going to cave in any minute. I feel like I can't cope with anything else.

DS1 is constantly arguing and being rude, shouting, screaming throwing things, refusing to do anything I ask him, giving me ultimatums, blaming me for everything barr ww2 - yes I know he has aspergers but this is not an excuse surely?

DS2 is copying him. being rude to me, shouting, screaming, hitting out, throwing things at me. I don't have this from him when DS1 is at school but when he comes home DS2 behaves the same as him.

Tonight and last night have been hell for me and I just want to cry, I feel like walking out things have been that bad.

as i said alone DS2 is a breeze and has been since day 1.
DS1 and DS2 together is the problem, DS2 doesn't yet understand that DS1 has problems and cannot help/control what he does.

his biological father walked away from him years ago..
DP has been every part a dad since we met in 2006. But with him working shifts he is not always around.

Hmmmm, I see your conundrum.

I still maintain that you need a break. If you were feeling this level of stress at work, your doctor would sign you off for a fortnight.

You need a break.

can you get a medical certificate to sign you off parenting for a week

LES - Do you post in the SN section? I hope so - you sound as if you could do with shared experience and support.

Cr*p if you have been given dx without support. I have a bad feeling this is not uncommon when dx comes at secondary school age, but SN people will probably have more knowledge of that than me.

Sorry to hear that. Some men are gits.

Agree with marmalade, you need a break. Go to GP, you may be suffering from stress/depression. If you are, you might be able to use this as a bargaining chip with the relevent agencies to get some respite/help.

Yes.

Here

Doctor Twatkins hereby signs you off parenting for one week.

(agree with animula too)

Can CAHMS shut the file??? Even if you tell them you are not coping????

CAMHS were under resourced 2 -3 years ago before the recession, now they must be a breaking point. With the best will in the world, there is only so much they can do.

The CAMHS nurse came in to chat to the SEN staff at my school back then, and they said they could only see a set number, I think it was around 4, the most serious, ie self-harmers, those at risk of suicide. She was frustrated that they couldn't help more.

hissymissy - I am v. sad to hear that.

I am more than likely depressed, for so long dr's told me i was over reacting about ds1. it was only with support and a kick up the ass from MN that I kept pushing for an assessment. it took long enough but I did get the answer.

I owe so much to the patient ladies on here!

I have posted in SN's board but tbh I feel out of my depth there as I don't really understand what I am dealing with.

I do need a break and a proper one. But its not going to happen so I need to find another way of coping.