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AIBU?

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to refuse to let DD go to school in a wheelbarrow?

38 replies

QueenOfFlippingEverything · 29/03/2011 17:40

DD's father is staying with us for a few days to see her. There's a lot of background to this - its the first time he has seen her for over two years due to his MH issues and refusal to communicate with me.

He has found a wheelbarrow frame and tied two pices of wood to it to make a rudimentary seat. He has told her he will take her to school in it tomorrow which she thinks is a hilarious and wonderful idea.

I think it is a crap idea because a) its dangerous - the walk to school is down a very very steep footpath through a field and b) its just frankly ridiculous, she is 8, she can bloody walk, she doesn't need to be taken in a fucking wheelbarrow just to make the pair of them look oh-so-unconventional.

He takes great pleasure in 'out-funning' me at every opportunity and will never be the one to say no to DD. He has always had a tendency to come up with ludicrous ideas, in the knowledge that I will veto them and look like a Great Big Party Pooper. He also has a somewhat poor ability (IMO) to judge what is and isn't dangerous, and being told not to do something is like a red rag to him and just increases the chance he will insist on doing it.

Now I am prepared to be told if IABU as my kneejerk reaction with DD's father is to assume he is being a twat, so maybe thats the case here.

OP posts:
purplepidjin · 29/03/2011 20:50

Maybe local yoofs have stolen it from your backgarden overnight Hmm

MrsRhettButler · 29/03/2011 20:54

thats so steep i cant see down it!

MN says no!

maddy68 · 29/03/2011 20:56

let her go she will be fine!!!!!!

ChippingInMistressSteamMop · 29/03/2011 20:58

maddy - on what do you base this? Have you actually looked at the hill he wants to let her go down on this homemade contraption?

Georgimama · 29/03/2011 20:59

Have you actually looked at the photo on the OP's profile maddy?

Georgimama · 29/03/2011 20:59

x posted with Chipping.

fluffles · 29/03/2011 20:59

it is a stupid idea, but i'm not sure it's up to you to stop it. just tell them both to be very careful and then leave it up to them.

if you stop it you will be falling into 'party pooper role'. i doubt your dd will get hurt even if the hill is too steep (wheelbarrows cannot wheel without somebody holding the handles).

ChippingInMistressSteamMop · 29/03/2011 21:02

fluffles - it's her daughter, she has every right to stop it. This is the first time in 2 years her father has seen her and he has mental health issues - why exactly do you think he should be allowed to do something dangerous with the OP's daughter just because he's 'her father'??

QueenOf - I was sure before that you shouldn't let them do it, now I think it borders on neglect if you do! YOU are the sane adult - YOU need to protect her from his gross stupidity and just deal with the fact that she will think you are 'No Fun' :(

Honeybee79 · 29/03/2011 21:03

If he's as bad as you say then you're totally justified in being pissed off.

To be honest, I think I'd be inclined to let him do it. You have to choose your battles and something tells me you're going to have bigger ones than these with him at some point . . .

AgentZigzag · 29/03/2011 21:07

Hope I'm not nit picking here chipping, but I can't see anything in the OP or her posts that says the dads mental health issues make him more prone to taking dangerous risks.

Unless you're drawing on a steroetype assuming anyone with mental health issues is a dangerous unpredictable person?

LessNarkyPuffin · 29/03/2011 21:07

I was going to say tell them fine if she wears a cycle helmet but that's one hell on a steep hill.

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 29/03/2011 21:09

oh god - sorry OP - I read up to your 18.03 post where you'd said you'd posted a picture of the hill on your profile, and I went off to look at it all ready to say "oh well actually you have a point" (well maybe you do)...............but - it would be so much fun.......dangerous but fun.............we used to sneak my mum's wheelbarrow out the back and do the same down a hill that looked just like that when I was 4 and my brother 8 Blush

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 29/03/2011 21:10

and my crossing out failed Grin

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