to want to move even though dd will be devastated?

[blackmonday]

I have done a thread on this before but am still going round in circles. Myself and dh own a lovely home (well mortgaged). We live on the outskirts of a not very nice northern town which we don't want dd's growing up in. Little employment, high drug problem etc. We would love to move back down south (not sure exactly where) . Thing is it would mean having to rent. We have messed up our credit rating and can't prove our income so won't be able to move our mortgage (even though we have never missed a payment). Also both dd's love our home and their school/friends but I know long term this is not a good area to bring them up. My eldest dd is very sensitive and would take a long time to adjust to a move. We are very worried about losing the security of owning our own home and the prospect of probably never getting back on the property ladder but moving from here to a better area would make myself and dh very very happy. Please help us decide what to do!!

Have you looked at what secondary schools are available to you where you are now?

I can't stress how awful it is as a family to rent...you're at the mercy of your landlord basically. They decide to sell and out yu go. We've been renting sinc we had our DC and its a pain.

If I were in your position I woul instead focus on encouragig my children to excell with what's on offer.

I would look at grammar schools and consider getting tutours.

You could do a LOT worse than Hodgson or Baines

Bricks and mortar aren't a good reason to stay if the rest of your life isn't making you happy.

Could you look other than down south? East Anglia maybe or the midlands somewhere? Might be a bit cheaper. Good luck :)

Sorry...x posts! I think OP you may find that the grass is greener...if the schools are good and you own a house then you're in a lot better positon than you may be aware!

Your DD is happy....you are anticipating trouble before it's hit you.