to think that birthday presents should be given on the birthday?

[MissPenteuth]

I'm genuinely not sure about this one, so be honest. SIL lives several hundred miles away, and decided that she would keep DD's birthday presents until she next sees us, rather than posting them. We have no plans for a visit, so this will probably be in a few months' time at least. The same thing happened at Christmas; SIL had presents bought and wrapped but never managed to get to the Post Office, so she brought them with her when she finally visited, in February.

Also, DH's parents (also SIL's parents) visited her and then us the other week, so they could easily have brought the presents down with them. I suppose SIL just wants to be there when DD opens them, but AIBU and ungrateful to think that giving presents several months late is just not quite right? I think she should have just posted them. She didn't send a card either (and while I think cards are a waste of money, the principle sort of bugs me). It was DD's first birthday, if that makes any difference.

I don't think she is being unreasonable because your daughter is too young to understand that the presents are being given late. However once your daughter becomes old enough to understand birthdays and what is happening then she should send it on time.

My ILs do this.
It is fine by me. When they asked whether to post things or to bring them when they come I said to do whichever they prefer.
The boys know this is how it works and seem to quite like having the presents spread out.

YABU - especially as DD is so young and doesn't even know that it's her birthday or Christmas. Your SIL lives far away, doesn't see you often, and yet still goes to the trouble of buying and wrapping presents. Most people wouldn't even bother in that senario. BTW, I live abroad and sometimes post presents. It's bloody expensive and also difficult trying to find interesting things that are postable.

Nice to have extra presents to open later in the year. Most birthday gifts just get lost in a blur of unwrapping. YABU.

Seems IABU then. Fair enough

to be honest I quite like it when people do this as it spreads out the orgy of present-opening on birthdays/christmas. Some friends visited recently and brought a belated xmas present for DD - she was delighted and played with it all day.

As long as she's not like my SIL who says this but then the presents never actually materialise when we do see her