Im furious, but scared at the same time

[welshbyrd]

over last few weeks this has happened
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1176943-Really-need-advice/AllOnOnePage#24485281
Got DS back into school on Friday, with support from head teacher, education officer etc

However, the vile nan, has told a member of my family, that she has repoted me to social services. For my 12yo DD/13 in may, taking the baby 2 in may, to the park, which is 10 yards from my house. DD12yo, has taken the baby to the park, always, when her friend brings her niece and nephew up, and they go together, half hour tops. If I stand outside my door, maybe take 6 steps, i can see the park. This happens about once every 2 months.
If she has made a complaint, and its not something she has stated to family member to get me worried, does anyone know the procedure SS have to take.
If SS contact HV, or DCs schools, I know there are no worries or concerns etc
I know I have nothing to hide, Ive never had SS ever involved in my children, and dont really know what to expect

Might also phone GP to check your children aren't very underweight and that there isn't a history of lots and lots of injuries.

Whether they will phone and visit depends on the area of the country you live in. Some SS Depts won't visit and phone because of overwork, when another SS will do so. But honestly once they check you out, there really won't be any problem.

Just phoned SS, thought bugger it, rather than sit at home terrified, waiting for them to come
They have not received any phone calls about any of my children
I asked about DD taking baby to park and she checked up, and said that 13yrs old + are allowed to babysit legally anyway, and as this is clearly not babysitting just an older sibling treating baby to the park occasionally, there is no problem whatsoever
Did have a little panic when I dialled number, thinking "oh shit, am I just opening a can of worms here?"
But feel much better now
Thank you all for the advice

my ex called SS out on me for care of the children. they came out and spoke to the kids without me, spoke to me without the kids and spoke to us together. Docs and schools were contacted. I then got a report to say the case was closed and there were concerns at all

Its pretty crappy behaviour janet, as other posters said, spite calls to SS, make an over-stretched valuable service to those who really need it, even more over-stretched

i agree welshbyrd. i have also been reported for benefit fraud twice by him. the first time he admitted to my mam that it wasnt him but he has family that can do it (the officer also knew stuff that average joe bloggs in the street wouldnt). the 2nd time, the woman just noted it as malicious and i was cleared both times

Im waiting for the benefit agency, or RSPCA [got pet rabbit, and gunea-pig] now, it has not been threatened, but its bound to be next, Dh works, so we get child tax credit, and working tax credit, dont suppose vile nan knows this, so she will probably give the benefit fraud line a ring.
Having spoken to SS now, with regards to other people she could ring, im being to feel invincible now, there is nothing else she can do to us.
Just got a bit worried about SS, thinking DD was not allowed to take baby out etc, having been told its fine, barr having her trash my house, or attack me in the street again[which she has done, slightly shaken, but im still here], there is nothing else she can do

could you report her to the police for harrassment? i have had to get the police involved with ex and his new woman. they have both been warned about threatening/contacting me.
SS can be helpful. they gave me tips with regards to my DS and as such, if they are called on me again, i wont be as scared this time

Im waiting on the housing officer ringing me back, I hope he will have some good news for me,in that the nan has been evicted, if not, im going to put myself up for priority housing, and will be re housed within a month or 2. I f I have to move, ill be pretty pissed off, just spent £3000, on new carpets, decor, bedroom fitting etc, so if I have to move now, its going to be a while before I can afford carpet again etc. DH mum, has recently sold her house, so know she would be in a position to help,cant help feeling pissed off about it though

hope it all works out for you. just remember that no matter who she reports you to, or what for, you are doing nothing wrong so have nothing to worry about. you can then be all smug when you are cleared and she has wasted hers and others time. SS/benefit people can see maliciousness when it happens

i'm so sorry to hear about all this, i'm really angry for you myself they sound like complete & utter scrubbers with no morals whatsoever.

Anyway, don't worry about the SS, lets hope they DO come & see you then YOU can tell THEM all about this family's going's on and it will be their own fault for calling the SS on YOU!

Please keep us updated so that we know everything is ok & you're safe & try to keep strong.

D
x

God what a scumbag family! Really feel for you! Can you take an injunction against them approaching you or anything? I don't know anything about this sort of thing but seeing as the nan was violent and the police are aware I was wondering if this is possible.

I wouldn't worry about SS, I'm sure they will realise it is vindictive.

she's reported you??!! A family who obviously have a lot of violence problems and a son who randomly attacks children in the street......I should think that social services are already keeping a very close eye on that family because the child is obviously either receiving violent treatment or witnessing it on a regular basis to behave that way.

I should think they will get evicted and I hope to god social services have given them a visit and assessed the safety of the boy who has the violent outbursts.

did you press charges against her for attacking you? they sound awful. i hope things improve and they get moved on, sad for the future neighbours of this family though

Yes I did mariez, but as the nan has not been in trouble with police since 2001, she was given an adult caution. Which is still considered a conviction with the council.Could not prove it was them involved with the car window being smashed
However, housing officer told me, they are not like the police [need proof etc] they deal with probability, he said if anything happens to my house, car etc, then the council would be in the position of assuming its them responsible, and if they have been served with eviction order [time consuming, averaging 4months for them to leave] the council would apply for an injuction order for her to leave her house, with the powers of arrest, until they regained the house