AIBU To want to take DS2 to one of the following...

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Tony and Guy, Nicky Clarke, Charles Worthington or Molten Brown. For his first hairut?

I was a bit about the pictures, but that's more because I thought you had 2 sons, and there only seems to be pictures of 'favourite hair son' on your profile.

(unless that one at the bottom is DS1 and he just has some sort of severe body hair problem..? )

To clear a couple of things up.

DS1 won't give a damn about DS2's haircut, he hates going to a salon and has his hair done at home as he can just about cope with that although even that takes hours sometimes.

I have already stated I have decided to use a childrens hairdressers that is not too far from me, but which is aimed at just children with cars to sit in to have their hair cut and a sweet and baloon afterwards.

Seeker, the fact of the matter is where I live the hairdressers are 90% Barbers/salons which braid, shave, design, put extensions, etc. They have no pictures or styles for white/non afro hair (as in hair type not person). So I would be concerned if these salons are not used to cutting a certain type of hair whether they would be able to or feel confident themselves doing so. That is just an observation, before anyone shouts racism.

Tryingtoleave, when have I been neurotic? and how do I have an unusual approach to parenting? and wtf does that have to do with having DS2's hair cut???

Fresh2death - so wanting my sons hair cut nicely is the same is it?

Maras, thanks for reminding me to remove them, I had forgotten they were there.

DS1 might not give a damn about the haircut, but will he care about the ££ that are being spent on DS2 and not on him?

Cat, DS1 hates having his photo taken there is only 1 or 2 on my profile of him.

As for DS2 being my favourite thats unfair, he is not I don't have favourites. I love them both the same amount just differently - because they are different children.

Trillian, I never spend money on one and not the other
oh tell a lie, saturday DS1 had £30 to go out and DS2 didn't.

Everybody hit the deck.. She's gonna blow!

And actually there are 7 photos of DS1 on my profile

CatAmongstPigeons Mon 28-Mar-11 11:11:42
I was a bit about the pictures, but that's more because I thought you had 2 sons, and there only seems to be pictures of 'favourite hair son' on your profile.

wtf???

You do as you feel......

It's your money and your child. If you want to splash out on his first hair-do then sobeit!

But you don't have to spend the earth...there are perfectly good and professional high street salons.

Sweetpea, so it seems anyway I was talking to him about having his hair cut and he told me he doesn't want it cut, so I will leave it a bit longer.

Evenstar do you have someone (or yourself) who just trim the tips off around the front so that it is out from his eyes since he does'nt want to go to get hsi hair cut?

Then that way he gets to keep his cute curls and you get to avoid the whinging about it getting in his eyes! :o

OMG soooo ridiculous

Blimey to have taken a flaming OP! I actually think YANBU, every 6 months I pay a bit more for my nearly 4 yr old ds to have his haircut at a 'posh' place. Inbetween appointments they cut his fringe for free. If the stylist who does it moves on, I will follow her! Nothing wrong if this is what you want to spend your money on.

I understand when people are saying about DS1 feeling left out but they have very different hair.

DS1's is very curly if left to grow but he looks like he has an afro.
DS2's is more ringlets when brushed straight it is longer than mine

But DS1 has a fear of hairdressers, no reason for it, he also cannot cope with the noise of clippers hence why I do his indoors. If he has a meltdown - which he always does, it is in the privacy of our own home.

I will be paying that bit extra for DS2's hair to be trimmed but DS1 will get the same amount of money spent on him as I always do with them when they need something.
I don't think "Oh DS1 needs new shoes, I better spend the same on DS2" otherwise they would always be getting something

If you can afford that, get on a train and come up to Yorkshire to the barber in my village. He is brilliant with kid's hair. Only place DS (2.5) does not get upset, good haircut, toys and a lolly afterwards.

Bike, its a bit far for a day trip just for a haircut. I wish my barber was still alive he was brilliant and cut my hair better than any hairdresser could.

I understand, I think, what you are trying to say - I took DD3 to a local but pricey (by my standards!) salon for her first haircut - I asked for a particular hairdresser as I knew from the adults who had used her that she could cut her hair into a perfectly cute French style bob (and I was obviously having a sudden attack of PFB syndrome despite her being number 3)! Having paid £25 to have it done that time, I now go to a local £6 hairdresser as it's just a matter of trimming the style that is there every couple of months. Didn't do that for the other DDs as they both had plain old boring long hair without a fringe (still do) which I figured any hairdresser could trim.

If you can afford it, then do it. If you are sacrificing something else to pay for a haircut, then clear instructions to any competent hairdresser should get what you want.

WHy don't you get one of those mobile hairdressers to come to your home and cut DS1's hair with scissors?

No hair salon, no clippers, safe environment - wouldn't that make for an easier haircut?

Blather, in all honesty no it wouldn't. He has an extreme dislike of people touching him so it is easier to take 4 hours myself and do it than to stress him out.

I think that the key to stress-free haircuts for the under-4s is specialist places with DVDs, toys for siblings and lollipops. I used to go to Sallys in Nappy Valley, which was great, and she cut really quickly, but now the DCs are old enough to sit still reliably I just go wherever's nearest.
I agree with the OP that given the choice I'd go to a white hairdresser for straight/wavy hair and a black hairdresser for Afro hair, I don't think that's controversial.

I have just avoided getting DS' hair cut until he can sit still for longer than just having his fringe trimmed. The local hair salon charges 2 pound for fringe trims, 4 pound for 5 and under and 5 pound from 6-12. I know a couple of others who have done this and their DS' were 7, 5 and 4 when they had their hair cut. Why is it always the boys who take longer to sit still Or is it just that people don't get girl's hair cut until later because they don't worry about it being too long?

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