AIBU to think less of a friend.

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My friend informed me today that she is going abroad next week.
She is travelling alone to the Greek islands leaving DH behind because he apparently "has no interest".
Then she confided to me that if given the chance she would pursue an holiday affair with one of the young handsome men that frequent the islands.

To say i am shocked is an understatement. For once i was lost for words.
I want to warn her DH but how can I ?

i would say the same. If the wife wasnt at all interested and was happy for him to go then I would question whether there were deeper issues.

Warn her husband at your peril. It's always the messenger that gets shot! Mind your own business.

I'd say the husband has a fairly good idea what she's planning. He sounds indifferent to her. Unless he's thick he must realise what's about to follow. More than likely he understands and doesn't care!

Keep your beak out!

Well there's an informed opinion Fresh2death, how long did it take you to come up with those words of wisdom?

About as long as it took you to post your quip

VAL

LOL I wouldn't bother following you anywhere, I just happened on the thread.

You obviously have a very inflated sense of your own importance you better get a grip there.

Thank you all for your replies.

Perhaps i should have mentioned that in the past she has been rather critical of men that visit Amsterdam or the far east to find women to "play" with.

It is that i see no difference at all in a middle aged woman going to the islands to have sex with hard bodied boys than the men that go to other notorious places in the world to find sex with younger women. It is very hypocritical of her.

I will not say anything to her DH as it is her business.

I just don't think i will look at her holiday snaps.

Sounds like a joke to me.

If not, their marriage is on its way out anyway and he probably knows it. Doubt he would be too chuffed at your knowing about it though....

Vallhala / beesimo

You two are making a show of yourselves. Please don't hijack this thread with your infantile arguments.

hahahahhahaha

yes, Shirley Valentine. Did you just watch it op and think it was so out-dated that no one would have heard of it?

sweetgilly

I stand corrected sorry everyone.

I wouldn't speak to her OH about it, but I would probably try to delve deeper with her about why she thinks that's a good idea. Maybe its something her and her husband are ok with. Maybe she is hurting and upset about something and thinks this will be a good way to make herself feel better, in shich case maybe you could help her through it.

If one of my friends told me they planned to cheat on their husband I don't think I could just smile and say "ok, sounds great, have fun!" I would want to try to help them with what was driving that particualr ambition. If I couldn't help them, they didn't need or want help, fine.

As someone who has cheated in a relationship I felt unloved, disgusted with myself and completely and utterly alone. I could have done with a friend to talk frankly with and to offer me support at the outset - I probably wouldn't have gone on to cheat.

why would you even consider telling him? i thought she was your friend? stay out of it. she hasnt even done anything. you could you just tell her that if she does have an affair you dont want to hear about it, but telling him? no