So, last week our cooker gives up the ghost. It was leaking gas and would cost more than the price of a new one to fix. Effing shite timing as we are saving to get our car fixed that has been off the road since Xmas, bloody typical. We get offered an almost brand new one by the friend of a friend who is selling it due to a move. Real bargain, am v happy. Mum offers to go and fetch it. I cant do lifting due to my SPD and pg, and Dad cant due to his eye problems, so I said that DH will go with her and I will stay here with Dad. This was yesterday.
She was HORRIFIED, in capital letters! She tried to persuade me to go and I coudnt work out why, pointing out that I probably wouldnt fit in the car with them and the cooker etc. And she said "Well you need to see it dont you? [DH] wont have a clue will he?" to which I said that I had seen a couple of photos kindly emailed by the seller and it looked really nice and just what I am after. So then she goes on about What if it doesnt work etc and that men have no idea about these things and then said "Well I wouldnt let your dad do something like that on his own"
Which said it all for me. She has always treated him like a slightly thick child. She nags him insessantly yet moans like hell when he shows no initiative. We are talking about a man who is a specialist in his field and recently stepped down from a director level post because the travel was getting to him. He is not a stupid man, but she has spent the last 40 years treating him like an idiot! It has always annoyed me, and dad just goes along with it and keeps his head down for a quiet life. But to assume that all men are like this is insulting. DH was actually quite annoyed, and he does get on well with my mum normally. When they got there she started giving the seller the third degree and DH ended up feeling embarassed, not least because she made him feel like a small child who couldnt be trusted.
I had said that I trust him to make the right decision and that I know no more about gas appliances than he does so the first we will know if it doesnt work is after it has been installed so what difference did it make? And she was shocked, genuinely shocked that I trust DH to sort this out all on hid own.
I know that there isnt anything I can do, but I am really pissed off and cant seem to shake that feeling this morning! I dont want to cause a row about what she did yesterday when they were fetching it as they have been really kind, helping out with lifts etc and providing us with hot meals since the cooker packed in. They have done alot to help us and I really dont it seem like we dont appreciate it. But on the other hand, I want to defend DH. Should I say something or let it drop and fume quietly?!