To march OH right back to the doctors?

[thefirstMrsDeVere]

I told him to get a vasectomy and he did 4 weeks ago.

Now I want another baby.

I think its fine. I am only nearly 44, we only have five kids and we have a huge tiny 3 bedroom house.
Only one of our kids has ASD and OH only has MS.
Just because I am miserable when I am pregnant, OH has been through a painful procedure, I am old, OH has a disability, we are on a low income and we dont have any more bedrooms and my youngest is only a year old.

That doesnt make me unreasonable does it?

What is WRONG with me [sob]

I am clearly mad and will be pushing the dog around in the pram any day now.

quite mad!!

YANBU

I nearly died and lost my baby giving birth. I get ill each time. I am a rubbish mum. I still want another two one.

Well if you start to breastfeed the dog as well as pushing it in the pram your life will be complete.

I would be willing to sell you one some of mine?

Bonkers
You could get one of those freaky dolls that look like real babies. [helpful]

If it was only 4 weeks ago - can he actually march? Perhaps you could pop him in a shopping trolly and wheel him there (for his own good of course ).

I always thought I would just have 2 children. But when they told me having a third was a bad idea for me medically - I desperately wanted another. I feel your pain.

When I suggested he had it done I feel he took to the idea with unseemly haste

I felt all grown up and sensible. Time to call it a day etc etc.

But I am not very sensible. I cant help it, I want some more.

I will have to get one of those weird dolls wont I?

I keep talking to babies in the supermarket. That wouldnt be so bad but I actually still have a baby! I have been broody since he was about 3 weeks old (how is that even possible?).

The shopping trolley idea is beginning to sound like a plan.

fourty bet you are NOT a rubbish mum.

Despite the lighthearted loony tone of this thread, I DO know how lucky I am to have easy pregnancies (physically anyway) and to be able to get pg in my 40s so easily.

I love my kids, even DS1 who is currently 17 (nuff said). That it! ITS their fault for being so perfect. I NEED more.

Reversals very rarely work..
We tried. DH had his vasectomy and due to various circumstances had a reversal (on the NHS as the reason was considered fair) but it didn't work and it was a LOT more painful than the original op:(

I totally understand your yearning.. it was heartbreakingly hard for a long long time, but it does pass...in the end:)

I think if I were you I would be happy with all I had.

Im broody, Im 46 and haven't had a period for three months, god its the menopause and I feel old.

This would be a perfect time for me to have a kid, if I wasn't menopausal and had been steralised at 32.

But hey we live with what we have, I've two wonderful children, you have your lot, be happy with what you have, make it enough.

I'm not sure if you're serious or not?

If you are then you're bonkers

If you're not then you're still bonkers

Happy to help!

vasectomies don't always work properly

i am with you, broody as hell a couple of weeks after ds was born, I want another girl was my cry (dc1= dd) (poor ds) followed shortly by i want another boy.

I think it is the lack of sleep and the hormones and stupidity? that makes us want more in the face of all practicalities. -

What sort of dog do you have? I'm really enjoying the mental image of a dog in a pram.....maybe wearing a bonnet? and a bib?

Well at least I'm not the only one.

Poor OH, I think he is still trying to work out how he ended up with all these kids.

He is the youngest of 12 and swore he didnt want a big family any children

I just looked up my old posts from when I was first pg with DC5. Bad move, makes me even more broody.

I need a hobby.

I only have 3, but the youngest are 5mo twins. some days I really really struggle (with a 3yo too), but I've still been broody since they were a few weeks old. I think it's because I know we can't afford any more. can't really afford the twins.

It's awful, sorry.

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I'll get over it it [hopeful]

Probably sometime during the easter holidays...

I have a worry that I will be like this, because you are the third person I have heard of to do this! 2 friends had permanent contraception, one was sterilised, the others DH had a vastectomy and within a few weeks both were mentally broody. I think it is the fact that you have no choice, we always want what we cant have!

You made the right decision for the right reasons and that understanding will return, my friends both got past their broodiness eventually :)

I still live inhope that dh's snip will fail...

ohno I have a chihuahua x pommerianian. He doesnt wear a bonnet but has a pink hacking jacket to keep him warm in the winter

I know that is bad enough but what if had revealed I had a labrador or Newfoundland? You lot would definately think I was a loon

I got broody 2 years after DHs vasectomy. It only lasted a few weeks and I got over it quickly enough :) I am sure you though this through long and hard and are just having a temporary moment of insanity blip

I wish I could say I did think about it hard nikki. Truth is it was more of 'you had better book yourself in quick or you are going to end up with another baby by the end of the year mate'

If I had thought about it any longer I would be on an entirely different thread, one entitled 'OMG what have I done?????'

I used to feel like you, I had 5 perfect babies who slept through, were cute on cue and we used to be smuggety smugsville. I used to say when parents moaned about not sleeping "What are they making a fuss about? Babies are easy" .
Then I had my sixth. She scowls at passers by, she stays awake all night and tantrums whereever we go.
Dp and I look at each other sometimes in a shellshocked haze and say "This is what those other parents meant".

dh had a vastectomy 12 years ago and I still get broody but after 9 kids I guess its a good job he wouldnt even consider getting it reversed, even when the granchildren came along it didnt help :(