to not put a nappy on my 3yr old tomorrow night

[CheekyLittleSox]

Bit wary of putting this in here as would expect a backlash as thats all AIBU seems to be about these days but i need help with this one.....

He is potty training, he is good with wee through the day but come night time 5 mins after putting a nappy on him he poos in it.

He holds it in until the nappy is on him. i have had hi sat on the toilet for an hour asking him to poo. Gave him the benefit of the doubt and thought maybe he didnt want one, put his nappy on, took him to bed and within minutes of being downstairs he shouts down that he has had a poo :(

I am beginning to loose patients(SP) with him and am thinking tomorrow night not to put a nappy on him and just put him in pants with his potty in his room. He uses the potty/toilet for wees and has done a few poos on the potty but will now not do it on them :(

If he's a little constipated you can go to the GP and get stool softener for him.

Iv got some stool softner that was prescribed to DS1 but dont want to give him it without GP say so so will go to GPs next week to ask about it. iv got movicol.

I remember reading somewhere that if you cut the 'arse' out of the nappy so that he can sit on the potty to poop. He has the security of the nappy but he sees the poop in the potty.

However I agree with the others, don't stress it, you've been changing sh1tty nappies for the past 3 years already-whats another few months?

Have you tried actually showing him yourself how it's done.

Daft as it sounds, whenever my 2 were toilet training, I took them up to the bathroom and showed them how to poo on the toilet. I think it was more to do with the kids seeing that I wasn't in pain or scared that did it for them. They were dry and clean at night in about 2-3 days.

Back off, let him have nappies for poo and try again in 3 months. Or jsut wait til he askes. It's not a big deal. Honestly. Apart form amything les, surely changing the occasional pooy nappy is better than spending an hour sitting next to him while he sits on the loo not pooing and making his constipation worse?

i know this may sound like a starnge suggestion but i know it has worked for some! do you have a toy trumpet or something like it that you have to blow into? the theory is that blowing hard on an insrument like this on the toilet can help children to poo, the blowing action kind of makes them "bare down". sorry tmi, wasn't sure how to phrase that! Worth a go if nothing else!

if not i would say just relax about it for a while let him come to terms with pooing on a toilet in his own time

My DS did exactly this, in fact I could have written this post 6 months ago. I too was worried he would never poo on the loo. Eventually he just got the hang of it. I know it's really frustrating but just give it a bit more time and try to relax about it, one day it will click. Good luck!

Are his nappies dry in the morning? And after having a DS who had poo accidents I'd much rather have him poo in a nappy at bedtime that when out and about. My DS (nearly 5) still wearing nappies at night. I was a bit stressed by it but he's not ready, they are soaked every morning, hope he'll grow out eventually....

Pooing in a nappy is an established habbit which is hard to break. Pooing in general has a lot to do with habbit - I know a few grown men who can only do it at home, for example.