TO WISH HE HAD NEVER RETURNED?????

[Allalone0]

I posted another thread yesterday called 'to not go to the airport to receive him'.
I didn't go, I felt bad and knew that he and the rest of the family including my own will think ' what a bitch' I am.

But I am glad I stayed strong and didn't go, because if I had gone then maybe I would have 'given him the wrong msg' and he may assume that their is some chance of reconciliation.

Having him live far away from us for the past 5 wks has actually helped me to have a feel of how things are without him being able to call round, as and when he feels like it. And to be honest I prefer it. Life was soooo much less stressful. The kids I was able to cope with, it's just his unreasonable, selfish, controlling and manipulative self I can't cope with.

I am 1 year 3m on from where you are... I had 9 years with him, then 8m here on my own. I slowly realised my own power, capabilities, and started to recover. I collected him from the airport, he started up again, with his mean spirits on the car journey home, and then within an hour of us arriving to the house.

He went BACK about a month ago.

Honey if he's anywhere near as controlling, selfish and manipulative as my X is, you have to really sit with yourself and work out what is and isn't acceptable and defend it.

I take it he doesn't live with you? If not, you know that you can say to him that you will not allow him to treat your home as his, it is not and never will be again.

Arrange days for the DC to see him, if you have parents houses you could meet him at for a while until your resolve strengthens, even better.

Don't let the bugger get you down, keep posting.

.. off to find your airport thread now....

Thanks Little...its actually called

'by not going to the airport to receive him???'.