To not want to give up my lovely clean bed to my smelly DH?!

[ImNotSweatyBetty]

We have three children and I turfed DH out of our marital bed shortly after the birth of DC#3 to have the lovely big bed all to myself and to stop me killing him for snoring and sleeping while I was breastfeeding allow him to sleep soundly as I am a kind and loving person.

Trouble is I've become used to my lovely big bed staying lovely and big, and the sheets staying fresh and clean smelling. DH is a Night Sweater [yuck emoticon] and his pits stink too! :o Really not nice to wake up to that (though a good contraceptive!!) :o

For various reasons, he really should come back to our bed. AIBU in not wanting him to?!

Does the OP's husband have poor personal hygiene? I read it that he had a 'problem' iyswim

Some people can have very bad sweat problems. I used to work with a bloke who had terribly stinking feet. He washed them every day, morning and night, he wore clean socks every day and new shoes at least every 6 months and STILL they stank. Some kind of medical ishoo. Poor sod.

But at least he tried! It's the not trying bit that would piss me off.

Do I admit that I sleep in the spare bed 95% of the time. ds3 won't sleep without me and I can't handle the upset of changing that so I prefer to 'visit' Dh in the marital bed and then go sleep in the spare bed. When I sleep in our bed I get a very broken night.
Sometimes DH says he hates it because the bed feels empty, other times he says its fab as he gets to starfish. We know this won't be forever though.

I think you (or rather he) need to do something as there is no futurepoint for change at the moment and that could mean drifting apart

Not sure he's got a 'problem' as such - but doesn't shpwer thoroughly (IMHO) and if he can't find his BO Basher, he goes without. He cycles to and from work without showering but doesn't see it as necessary.

Honestly though I've tried telling him nicely, and tried telling him not nicely. No change :(

Can you suggest he has a bath at least once a week? For at least half an hour? To really soak it all off - that might help and then the showers would just be top ups. Or you could try coating him in live yoghurt so the good bacteria take on the bad stinky ones and that might help

(ok, no idea if the latter suggestion would work, tis a bit tongue in cheek, but the former might really help)

Sounds like he's not that bothered, tbh - not a very good sign. :(

Nah that's not on then- he's a minger :(

My DH cycles to and from work, first thing he does when he arrives (both at work and home) is go for a shower