All right, this explanation may be a bit long but: I work at a school from eight til noon every day. DS (3 and a half) attends daycare during that time. His carer is lovely, very nice and warm and loves DS. However. Her son and his best friend (they're 7) are really poorly behaved. I've helped out after school when they've been there, and they bully the little ones, etc. Her son also screams at her, demands things, and has hit her on occasion. She tries to discipline him but he does not listen or behave and there's no follow through. Also, when the school-age DCs are at the daycare there are a lot of children, too many to be properly supervised IMO. (Especially at the carer's son and his friend are very sneaky; they're mean to the others when they're not being watched.) If DS had to be there when the older boys were there...well, I'd find another daycare tbh. But during the day when the older ones are at school it's very low-key, only a few DC, etc. Anyway, finally getting to the point! :) This coming Tuesday there's no school. There's an optional workshop for the support staff and the teacher I work under asked me if I was going. I said I would look into it. I asked ILs if they can watch DS but they can't. I told the teacher that I wouldn't be going as DS would have no one to watch him. Another support staff butted in and said "he can go to daycare can't he?" I explained without going into too much detail why I was uncomfortable with that and she said "well he'll have to learn to stand up for himself at some point!" I said of course, but stated again that I was a bit uncomfortable with the situation and did not want to send him. She started saying "Kids have to realize that they can make their own decisions, blah blah blah..." I was a bit 
I mean, he's three! Of course he needs to stand up for himself, but FFS this is an optional thing and I feel like I shouldn't need to go into it.
So, AIBU? Or just a bit PFB? :) I can take it!