To think if I'd ff instead of bf...

[Thatbastardcat]

Put ds in his own room at a week old rather than co sleep and gone back to work rather than be a sahm and skint, people would hold me in higher regard than they do now?

I am so so sick of people telling me I should stop bf my 1 yo, should put him in his own room, should put him in nursery blah blah blah.

My dh wants me stop bf and gets angry with me all the time about it. I enjoy it as does my ds. Dh asked me not to do it when his parents come down next week as it embaresses them.

I don't see people who ff getting as actively slagged off to their face about it not being normal.

Am regular on here but have nc.

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"Dh asked me not to do it when his parents come down next week as it embaresses them". Oh please - he needs a poke in the eye for spouting that kind of rubbish to you.

BF is normal - if it wasn't normal the human race would not have made it this far. Formula, clean safe water to make it with and sterilised bottled just didn't exist until fairly recently.

So sorry and cross you are subjected to that kind of crap from your H in your own home!!

Are you happy with your choices??

Yes?
Then sod everyone else. Including your 'D'H. If it embarrasses his parents then they can leave the room.

I really don't get why people get so uppity about another's personal choices.

Fwiw I would hold you in high regard for what you are doing now. Though I think people who ff do get a bit of stick, barbed comments etc.

If the PIL are embarrassed by you bf'ing then they can get up and leave the room.

Nobody else's business - ignore! If PILs don't like it, they're free to leave the room. Give your DH a slap for being an arse and carry on.

Oh here we go....

I agree that you should breast feed throughout. It's stupid other people feeling uncomfortable at a natural thing.

However your husband does have a point when it comes to the nursery and other such subjects. You need to raise your child by letting go a bit, otherwise you will be breastfeeding it through the school gates when its 10 and sleeping with it still when its a teenager.

I am sorry you are unhappy.

However, I think you know you are making generalisations. There are people here and everywhere who would hold you in contempt for:

Formula feeding
Putting your child in its own room before 6 months
'Leaving your child with strangers' AKA working out of the home

Every decision you make as a parent for the next 18 years will be villified by someone. We all need strategies for dealing with this.

I hope you can come to an amicable agreement with your DH about the BF. It's hard when you both have different opinions on any aspect of child-rearing.